How do people become gay?

Answer 1

Most scientists researching this question are seeing their research pointing to at least a biological if not genetic origin of sexual orientation. This evidence is increasingly showing that sexual orientation, whether gay, straight, or bisexual, is probably set very early on -- if not in the womb or at conception. In other words, sexual orientation is inborn.

Now, many people--particularly people who are opposed to homosexuality on religious grounds, in particular -- reject this theory, saying that there are a lot of examples of people who were gay who have been "cured" and "made straight" through various kinds of "therapy," whether psychological or religious.

However, it is important to remember that the American Psychological Association (the national organization of professional psychologists) does not take up when or how sexual orientation is determined, but it does say that there is nothing inherently wrong or unhealthy with non-straight sexual orientations; the APA further considers therapy meant to "cure" homosexuality to be at most ineffective and at worst extremely harmful to the health of people who have same-sex attraction or are gay.

This kind of therapy is part of what is called the "ex-gay" movement, but it is important to note that there have been scandals in recent years of supposedly "cured" gay people being caught in gay bars or engaging in gay relationships. In fact, the largest ex-gay organization in Great Britain actually disbanded a few years ago, because they realized they were having no success in curing people -- slowly coming to the realization that sexual orientation cannot be changed.

Now, people who believe that sexual orientation can be changed are usually confusing homosexuality and heterosexuality with bisexuality; obviously someone who is bisexual can be sexually attracted to people of either sex, or conditioned or taught to seek out relationships or sexual experiences with only the opposite sex. However, truly heterosexual and truly homosexual people cannot truly change their sexual orientation; at best, they can become celibate (avoiding sex), which is not the same thing as changing one's inborn sexual orientation. More and more research will be done in this area in the next decade, and it is likely that one or more biological or genetic sources of sexual orientation will be found.

However, it is safe to say that sexual orientation is at least inborn and not something chosen or mutable. It's simply the way someone is born.
They are born homosexual and usually beginning identifying as such when they found themselves attracted to the same sex, romantically or sexually.

Answer 2

They become Gay way before they know about it, just as when Straight people become straight ! It is something scientists are still unsure about, but we know it is either before birth or during pre-adolescence. The fact is that children do not know what sexual orientation they are until they reach Puberty and beyond even if they are attracted to the same gender before.

There is no way of turning gay by any other means. It is something that is set in the brain. You are gay if your sexual thoughts and deeds are purely of the same gender.

This does not mean that someone cannot act gay though ! It is clearly possible for heterosexual beings to have homosexual thoughts and actions when they so desire. This does not mean they are gay. During puberty boys can quite often perform sexual acts together during sleepovers. This is classed as normal curiosity behaviour during that period of time.

It is possible to be Bisexual. This is when the person has sexual thoughts towards their own gender and the opposite gender. This can be mixed up with homosexuality. Persons of Bisexuality are more prone to believing that sexual orientation is a choice.

Answer 3

Nobody can become gay. You are either born gay or you're not.