What should you do if your boyfriend or girlfriend spanks you?

Answer 1

== == If the spanking was inflicted against your protests, consider why that boy or girlfriend acted as he/she did. If he/she wants you subject to his/her control, then dump him/her and take an inventory of your own personality. Are you attracted to people likely to abuse you? If so, find a good therapist and explore your own self-esteem and expectations in life. Do not look for someone else while you are doing so.

If he/she is chagrined or surprised at your reaction, then there is a good, solid basis for hope. If you haven't already started to do so--speak with each other openly and often about your relationship. Does each of you want the best for the other: mentally, spiritually, and physically? Does this mean to you that you will respect each other's opinions and wishes even when they are counter to you own?

There is absolutely no basis for a relationship in which one or both partners considers the other an object for his own pleasure, ambition, or self-affirmation. If you were spanked because your partner believes you have to resign yourself to being his/her plaything, then the spanking can be an indication of worse types of physical contact of that nature to come.