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What should I do if I just found out my husband had an affair 8 years ago and he found out a year ago that she had a child?
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∙ 15y ago
I must pose the obvious question: how did your husband find out only a year ago that he had a child from a relationship of eight years ago? May I suggest that you query him about his ignorance? The decision to continue your marriage is entirely up to you. But that decision can only come after you have cleared up the question above. For you must learn about this matter to its fullest detail. For questions about the affair will linger on, so clear the air now as much as you can. If after you know all the details and you can accept the fact of your husband's affair happened eight years ago, you can decide whether you should go on with your marriage. _______________________________________________________________________________________________________ If things were going well in your life before this incident then you should weigh all the good things in your lives against the bad.
Is it a simple or a difficult issue of having sex with someone else? Did any of you have sex with anyone else before you were married? The only difference of having sex with others before marriage and sex with others during marriage is the betrayal of your confidence and your sacred covenant. You need to determine for yourself, if you have any of the following problems. Is your spouse abusive and uncaring? Is there is a lack of passion/excitement in your relationship? What are the things about you that he loves? What are the things about him that you love? Then you must decide what is most important and gratifying to you. After determining what that is, make an informed choice for your future happiness. Loving someone is determined by the things you do. Being in love with someone is the great times and bad times you share together. People cheat for many reasons. Some cheat for the pleasure and excitement of the act. Some cheat because of encouragement from others. Some cheat because of unfulfilled sexual desires. Some cheat because of unhappy relationships. Some cheat to compensate for personal (emotional) weakness. Not all advise is good advise! Some people react with myopic emotional prejudice without taking all the relevant information into consideration. Before following someone's advise you must consider all that you have to gain or loose.
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What would you do if you found out your husbands mistress has a child with the woman he had the affair with?
i would tell the husband its 'me or her' and let him choose!!
Can you sue your husband when you found out he has a child in her mistress?
no you cant sorry
Can your marriage work if in your 18 year marriage you just found out that your husband has been in a 4 year affair and has a child with her?
It depends. Do you still love him. If you do, forgive him and move on. But make sure he stays away from that other woman. Good Luck.
Which is better to accept your husband admitting his affair to you or you discovering it?
It is much better if the husband admits to his affair because it shows he has remorse and humans make mistakes, but when a husband has the intestinal fortitude to admit he was wrong in what he did then he is ready to try and make the marriage work. A husband who has to be caught in an affair may even become angry over the fact his wife found out and he is neither remorseful and basically selfish not considering the hurt he is inflicting on his wife and family.
Could you set aside the pain your husband gave you from his affair for the sake of your young children?
Each individual woman is different when it comes to forgiving her husband for having an affair and it is a personal decision by that woman. Once that bond of trust is broken it is difficult for the wife to trust her husband and generally that mistrust turns into questioning the husband if he should be late coming home to where he is going and eventually some men will simply leave the marriage on that basis. Not only that, but the wife feels demeaned or sometimes unattractive because she can subconsciously feel she is unattractive or her husband wouldn't have found it necessary to have an affair. Of course is most cases this is not true and the husband would cheat no matter how attractive his wife is. If your husband has had more than one affair before it is more than likely he will have another one. If this is the first affair he has had then humans make mistakes and it is worth trying to resolve problems in your marriage by seeking out a good marriage counselor, but only if your husband is willing. If your husband refuses to get marriage counseling or does not want to give up the woman he has had the affair with or feels threatened by you to walk away from the affair then no, it is not wise to stay in such an unsettled and toxic marriage for the sake of the children. If you and your husband decide to dissolve the marriage then try to do it on a friendly basis for the sake of the children as children often blame themselves for their parents divorcing. Make sure you try to appear to be friends in front of the children and agree that your husband pays child support and has joint custody of his children so the children can have both parents in their lives. If you do not want to be quite so drastic as to apply for divorce you could try separating for awhile to see if you and your husband cannot work things out, but be sure the children get to see him or even stay with this father on weekends and some holidays.
Best friend having an affair with a friends' husband?
Best friend having an affair with friends husband? I recently found out that my best friend is having an affair with the husband of a couple my husband and I hang out with often. It seems, the affair has been going on for several months (almost a year) but I found out about it a few weeks ago. My best friend was sworn to secrecy by him and was made to promise that she would never tell me but one night, while I was at her place having drinks, she had a few too many and spilled the beans. Problem is, my husband and I are pretty close to the married couple and often times we have dinner, travel, or hang out at each other's homes. I am at a loss as to how to handle this. What would you do in my situation? Now that I know, I feel guilty although I had nothing to do with them hooking up.
What if your husband has a 3 year affair and is treating you horribly is he angry cause he got caught and he still wants to maintain his affair?
he is proberly angry because he got caught and hes mad that the person that found out with give him problems.Hope this helps.=)
In The Crucible who does Mary warren fire?
Elizabeth Proctor fired Abigail Williams when she found out her husband was having an affair with Abigail. Mary was the Proctor's second servant.
What's going on if your husband had an affair 2 years ago and you just found out that he has been calling another woman that had an affair on her husband but he said they are just good friends?
He could be telling the truth, but he should have learned from his mistakes the first time. It doesn't matter if this woman's husband is cheating on her or not ... she has girlfriends to talk too and doesn't need your husband! After all, he's the male and she's a female and isn't that how cheating starts, just friends. Think about it! Tell him to lose the friend! If he doesn't like it, tell him the next step you plan he won't like even more and that's leaving! Good luck Marcy
Can you sue your ex not husband because he was married to someone and lied to you about it and lived with you and his wife at the same time when i found out i ofcourse kicked him out we have a child?
Youi can very well sue your ex husband , even if you have child,if he has lied and already got a wife and child , you can file a case against him.
How can a wife tell if husband still wants to be with the other woman?
He probably does want to be with her..... but the wife (if she found out) uses her control over him to force him into not being with her. Sometimes it depends on how deep the affair with the mistress was.
Near the end of scene one what do you learn about Blanche's husband?
He was involved in an affair with another man. Blanche found out about this and when she was drunk called him worthless. He committed suicide because of this.
