Should a wife forgive a cheating husband?

Answer 1

This is only my opinion, but if my husband hasn't cheated before and has admitted to cheating without any help from me, then yes, I'd give him a break, but it would take me a long time to trust him again, but I'd try to work through it with him. There can be all sorts of stresses in a marriage and here are some reasons some people cheat: Money problems; Lack of communication in the relationship; All attention is on the children and little left for the husband (or wife); A job that takes you out of town a lot; Andropause in men and menopause in women (some need to prove to themselves; that they are not losing their looks and that the opposite sex is still interested in them) and loneliness. When any of us took our marriage vows no one promised us a rose garden. There will certainly be some problems in a marriage whether it is cheating, arguing too much or illness. It's always best to try to work on the problem the best you can and if the person isn't trying or doesn't want to try and strays away again then it's time to kick his butt to the curb. In this modern age it seems that the excuses people give for divorcing is ridiculous and immature and some of the reasons are merely excuses so the person can free themselves of a responsibility. Yes, when someone you love cheats on you it hurts, but, if it's a first-time offence it's best to try and save the marriage by going to marriage counseling or trying to deal with it yourselves. In order to do this both of you have to take the blame for the way your relationship has deteriorated so you sit down, talk it out and see if you can repair the damage. If you can't then move on. I know someone is going to come up behind me and say "once a cheater, always a cheater" but in some cases that's not true. Some people stray because they are lonely, and others do it because they want to grab their youth back. Good luck Marcy