Is it wrong for a man and woman who are in love to have an affair for years while each of them are married to someone else?

Answer 1

First of all, '''if you have kids, you should stop seeing the other man at least until the kids have moved out!!''' Ask yourself what it is that makes you want to be with the other man. What does he do that your husband doesn't? Is there something wrong with the relationship between you and your husband? Most likely, yes. You should try to solve this problem first. Try to fix your relationship with you're husband, so that you no longer feel the need to find someone else who can make you happy. That will be very hard to do if you are still seeing the other man, so you and him will ''at least'' need to "take a break." The most important thing with fixing your relationship with your husband is to be completely open and honest with him. You and him need to be able to communicate well. If at first he seems to resist this, '''don't give up'''; keep trying. Tell him that you want to change things and make things better. It may take a while for things to change, but they will eventually. Your goal is to get your relationship with your husband to be just as good as your relationship with the other man was. This will probably require some changes for both of you. Help him though it. If you absolutely can not fix your relationship with your husband, then you have two options. Either stay with him anyway, and settle for a less-than-perfect relationship, or get a divorce (thats not an option if you have kids living at home!). Don't continue your affair. It will cause more problems that it is worth; there is no point being with a guy who you don't really care about, especially if your mind is always on another guy. As a final note, if your husband is physically abusive in any way, then '''don't stay with him''', '''especially''' if you have kids living at home because he could be abusing to them too! Other than that, don't leave him if you have kids living at home! -DJ Craig In my opinion,YES,it's definitely wrong!Why?Because if you and this person really LOVED eachother,you would have been together.If you do not get along with your partner than get a divorce, even if there is children. It's better for kids to be in a happy environment than in a family where there is no happiness or peace at home.I think this is the ultimate disrespect to your partner!AND YOURSELF!It's obvious that this question is speaking for your morals.You are asking if it's right?Deep down you know it's not. I think it's time for you to start being honest-starting with yourself.