Is a guy nervous or bored if he's avoiding being alone with you?

Answer 1

It's usually because they are shy and nervous. Most guys are shy, but every so often you bump into the too cool, too smooth ones that butter wouldn't melt in their mouths. Give me the good old fashion shy guys any time. Here's a little story for you. When I met my second husband (he's almost 4 years younger than me and a country boy, and I was a city girl) he was so nervous when he took me out to an Italian restaurant. I'm very out-going so I joked and talked and he started to relax until the waitress came to ask what bottle of wine we wanted. I knew this poor guy didn't have a huge amount of money at the time and he tried to make everything perfect for me so he asked for two glasses of a certain wine. The waitress scowled and was really rude. She kept standing there, eyes borrowed at him and I touched her arm and said, "Excuse me, but do you have a hearing problem? We only want two glasses of wine on this table because we don't want a full bottle of wine. Do you have a personal problem with this?" She was shocked, apologized and left to get our two glasses of wine. If anything could go wrong that night for my husband-to-be (he was super shy) it did. When we got our spaghetti he dribbled it down his nice white shirt and I just broke out in gales of laughter. After that happened I simply took a few long strands of spaghetti and sucked it in and snapped it back into my mouth and we laughed and laughed (spaghetti sauce ripped across my face). I always feel laughter is the best medicine. From then on while we were dating at the beginning I suggested going to more laid-back places so we could both relax and enjoy each other. Now I have been married to that young man who was so very shy for 34 years and I love him just as much today as I did sitting over that spaghetti and watching it dribble down his shirt. I think that's when I fell in love with him. So, what I am basically saying, start really looking and listening to this young man and you'll know he's shy and feeling awkward if you are paying attention and take it slow and easy, joke around, be laid-back and laugh as much as you can because it's a rip of a journey. Good luck Marcy