How long does it take for a girl for it not to hurt during sex?

Answer 1

It depends on the girl. The pain, if she still has/had it, is from her hymen being broken, but after this, pain is caused by a girl that is "not ready," or appropriately turned on, yet. If she is not aroused, her vagina will not start secreting fluid that acts as lubrication. Also, if she is nervous, worried, stressed in general, it will take some time for her to become aroused, if at all. Also, when females do become aroused, their vaginal muscles loosen up a bit to accommodate a man, and as the sex progresses, she will loosen up to accommodate you better. Finally, lube is key. She will be plenty wet if she is ready, and should stay wet, but if not, invest in some water based lube for use with condoms, or, if you want something that lasts longer, but may interfere with some toys and comes at a cost premium, silicone lube is better.

DO NOT TRY TO SHOW OFF BY GOING FOR 3 HOURS NON STOP UNLESS YOU ARE BOTH UP TO IT.

This hurts women, and once they orgasm, some women would like a break, like most men. Some women can have multiple orgasms with no problem however. If they lose interest, they will dry up, and that will be the last time you will get laid that week. If you go for quite a long time when she is not ready, she will get sore from it, and require a few days to heal.

There are some cases that it is a medical condition that the girl may have that cause the vaginal muscles to be tight all the time, and that she will need to go through some serious mental prep to loosen them up.

My girlfriend is rather tight, and because she was rather inexperienced when we first starting having sex, she gets sore very easily, much to my dismay. She tries to go for more than 20 minutes, but gets very sore, and will not have sex for 4 or so days. NOT COOL. At time went on, her body has learned to relax a bit, and as scary as it sounds, the lower parts of her vagina, near her anus, the ones that were being punished the most because of their arrangement, have either become stretched or torn, and are now looser for me, and hurt her less.

All this stuff about "men last longer" and "she likes it bigger" are not always true. Yes, a 2 inch man that lasts for 90 seconds will not satisfy the women, but an average guy will do. Some women like longer or girthier cocks. My girlfriend would not let me go near her if it was bigger around, but she said that she would like it longer, she likes having her cervix poked. Many women dont like this, it hurts them.

The key, in my opinion, is to talk about it, and read her non verbal responses. Mid coitus, ask "is this alright?" "what do you like?" etc. Let her take control a bit, women like this, and I love it too. Don't be afraid to experiment, make sure that she knows she can experiment too, and DO talk about it.

(2nd response) My lady found out that she was subconsciously tensing her vaginal muscles during sex. When she learned to relax and enjoy it she stopped having pain. Before this, it was a race for me to orgasm before the pain set in.