How do you get over someone who doesn't love you back?

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Don't dwell on them. Give yourself a few weeks to mourn, cry and begin to get over this person and then start to find other interests. Its normal to mourn the loss of someone but do NOT let it go on for months. At first, find as many people you can talk to about your ex and your relationship. Get it out of your system. As the weeks go on, if you find yourself dwelling on them, you need to learn to stop that. If you have to, say "NO!" out loud every time you think of them or miss them. Plan your days or evenings for the first few weeks. DO NOT sit alone if at all possible. You need to keep your mind on other things -- especially in the beginning. Get a new hobby. Volunteer. Do something that your ex never wanted to do. Did they hate the outdoors? Go hiking. Did they dislike the museum? Go to an art show. Do something for YOU.

If you religious (I am), PRAY. Ask God for strength and clear thoughts so that you can begin to heal. Ask HIM to lift the sadness and depression from you. It won't happen magically right after you pray but you'll be stunned at how quickly it DOES happen. If you just believe in what you are praying for.

You need to realize that just because this didn't love you back doesn't mean that you aren't lovable. Remind yourself that you are a wonderful person who deserves to be happy. But you need time to heal. Allow yourself that. Getting over someone is painful and takes time. But it WILL happen. Slowly but surely.

My heart goes out to you in this painful time. But you ARE going to be okay. Trust me on that.

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Not to give you false hope, but how do you know they don't love you back. It's been said before and I will say it again,"talk to them". If they really don't love you back. Don't think it's the end of your world.When you love someone it's normal to think of them and mourn for the memories of what you had together. But you have to try. I'm going through withdrawal symptoms for a love that was lost. It's only been 3 weeks and I don't eat or sleep. And it's hard not to think about her all the time. I wanted to spend my life with her. But what helps me is answering these FAQs. And knowing I'm a caring and giving person that no one can or will take that away from me. If you read these FAQs know that you're not alone and more people care about you than yourself.

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It's hard getting over someone you loved with every molecule in your body. I'm having a hard time not thinking about my ex. We dated for 7 years and it's been 3 months since she broke it off. I live really close to her and I haven't seen her since September. I miss her but not seeing her is a test that I'm putting myself through. She told me she will always love me and that I will always be the love of her life but I now believe that she said that to make me feel better. We haven't spoken, emailed, or texted each other in about 3 weeks. I have been keeping busy by working out and getting all the aggression out on the weights. I have been to parties and walked the streets of San Francisco. I am currently planning on doing tandem skydiving. When school starts again I'm going to load myself with work so that I can stay busy and keep my mind off of her. Even after 3 months I find myself crying at night, praying for strength. It works sometimes. It really helps when you talk about it because then you start to get tired of the whole situation that in the end you don't want to talk about it anymore. You force yourself to put it aside. If you love them and you are not sure that they love you back then you are a better person for it. Why? Because you are human and if they loved you like they said they did then there should still be a tiny bit of the same feelings they felt for you at one point. I go to the beach and scream and yell then I enjoy the view of the waves crashing and at times the sunset and sunrise. Will we ever get over that person we loved/love? If you really loved them, I mean really loved them then they will always be with you, memories.

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Everyone has a different way of getting over someone the key thing I would suggest is DO NOT keep it all in inside, CRY, SCREAM, SWEAR, do anything to let it all out. Believe me if you keep it in it will only result in you emotionally exploding, trust me you do not want to do that...

If you have a close friend confide in them or what I personally prefer write it all down and let all your emotions pour out on the paper. I know that it is hard but life goes on and remember that you had a life before them and you will have a life after them. And don't try an get yourself into the mentality that you are over that person when really your not, be true to yourself.

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Well I have definitely been through this kind of thing lately... it is so hard to go through and you keep wondering what you did wrong that you weren't good enough for them but you know what? You can't tell yourself that because you deserve so much more and if they can't see that, they aren't worth your time. I know that sounds cliche, but it is the one thing I could say to myself that got me through it.

Don't let it change who you are because you want someone that wants you and someone that is willing to give you a million times more than you deserve. Hold out for that person. They are probably just around the corner and you just need to be patient. "Do what you love and you will find someone who loves the same thing. Don't look for love, beg for love, or suffer for love. Just live." And don't hold it all in. It helps so much to just let it out.

Just know your not alone out there.

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I honestly don't know what to do I'm dealing with some case like this and I have no one to listen to me, everyone says get over it , it will be OK. But honestly they don't know how hard it is.

First - don't give up,be yourself and don't change anything. Running out of being who you are hurts even more. You know that it's hard to love someone and to want to receive more than you give, but this is our human nature - some of us are givers,some are receivers,just don't blame but find your way to deal with it.

I wish I could tell you that it worth it to continue,but you know that this leads only to misery and questions why it's not going the way we want.

How do we get over? It's almost impossible in short term,you give more and more waiting this to change something in the other person and at some point you will feel like an empty glass.At this moment you will be able to move on and to leave it. When you realize that there's nothing more to give,not asking yourself if you should.

These situations are really exhausting for your mental health and it's advisable to stop on time with torturing your soul,otherwise you will continue to suffer the same in every next relationship.

If you dig deep you will probably find that you are missing something,missing the love you have for yourself,the love which is with the highest importance in your life.

So,the answer - love yourself more and more.Find the way how to do it and this will help you for a lifetime.

And about the person who doesn't love you back - it's meant to be like that and you should admit it.Nothing is taken for granted,couples are getting divorced after 20 years of marriage.

Do you really want that love?

If you wait for too long you and if you get what you want at the end you will probably find that this was NOT the love you wanted.

I still love the girl who twisted my mind and I will not give up.