Why did my widowed boyfriend call me his dead wife's name after kissing me?

Answer 1

Surely it's understandable? He obviously was emotionally very attached to his late wife and his brain went back to the relaxed closeness he had with her, it was a subconscious response. He is getting attached to you now.

I am seeing a widower for several years. Sometimes, especially with heightened emotions he has called me his wife's name. One time I almost got knocked down, he grabbed my arm, pulled me back and shouted her name. To me it's perfectly alright, he really loved his wife and I know that I'm reaching a deep part of him too, so deep that subconsciously he is mentioning whatever name comes to his mind for 'love'. She came first, and then me.

I sometimes call my son my daughter's name, (how bad is that?) obviously that's the subconscious mistaking the names for 'my children'. I am totally comfortable with an odd slip on my partner's behalf, and I believe his wife was a fine person to hold his love in the first place, I could be called a lot worse. But now I'm the one he's with and the mistaken name thing practically never happens.

:)