When does the mistress win?

Answer 1

If the man loves his wife the the mistress will always be second, and who wants to be second? I want to say you will never win, but the man always puts his wife first, while the mistress is hidden. You should think about who is winning, is it the mistress or the wife?

AnswerShe only wins if he leaves you...but that is the battle the mistress is faced with..her attempts to woe him away from his wife. It becomes a game for them... common among women who have nothing else but your husband or fiance, but even though she doesn't have him, she wants him. I think many mistresses are jealous of the life him and his wife have, that they want a piece of it too. But if your man comes home and admits to his fault and wants to only be with you then "it's good bye the witch is dead." AnswerHow can any one "win" in these types of situations?

I have asked myself this question. But it is not a game, when dealing with other peoples hearts and lives.

What it is.

It's horrible. It's devastating. It makes us all neurotic.

It is living 32 years without love. Being unhappily married for 12 years, feeling lonely and full of despair while in a marriage relationship.

Then one day, meeting a man and almost immediately, falling deeply in love with him.

But only able to be the other woman.

I try to tell myself, that there is no future for the relationship, and that I need to have some self respect. That I'm smart, beautiful, capable, confident and more. That I deserve a man, who is free to give me 100% of himself. But, I fell in love with this man. Who has a son and a common law wife, (fiance to everyone else)

He takes my breath away, he inspires me, he takes good care of me. We connect on million different levels. But I am still # 2.

I did not plan this! I was faithful to a lousy husband for 12 years before getting divorced.

I thought I had life figured out, I had everything all in neat little boxes.

Religion - Marriage - Career - Family - Friends - Perfect home

But apparently the universe had other plans for my life. It doesn't seem fair to any of us. And yet when he looks at me... I cannot stop how I feel. And he won't let me be. I tell him no and he is even more persistent. I cannot bear it. I want to move on - but he's so jealous. I cannot live without him, but I cannot stand living this way!

His best friend, his passionate lover, his coworker and confidant. All the while his #2 girl.

What is the answer? Who can control who they love? I had never been "in love" before now, and its really something, but it really sucks!

My dear, if you are not devastatingly in love with this man... pull yourself up by the laces of your fastest running shoes, and go....

AnswerFor what it is worth: I have noticed that there are two types of affairs spoken about in this section. 1) where the men promise they will leave their wives and never do 2) where the men say from the outset they are not prepared to leave their wives/children etc. There are a few posts where the man has left his wife for the mistress but by their own accounts the whole thing is very painful.