How do I tell my husband if I am not satisfied?

Answer 1

I think you would be very surprised by the number of women who have this situation. First off if you have been pretendingto be satisfied you need to stop. If he is very defensive about this subject, then you need to try to find a way to explain that doesn't make him feel like he has been doing things wrong, you just need him to do somethings different.

I have heard therapists suggest talking about this in a neutral setting, in other words while taking a drive in the car, rather than in the bedroom. I think it is just as important to find a time when he has an opportunity to talk out his feelings too. Men may not realize that our bodies change over the years. Things like pregnancy and childbirth being two big causes, but in reality just the passage of time, makes something that worked just fine at one time become annoying five years down the road.

There are books written for couples to use as a handbookso to speak, to share and explore different aspects of our sexuality. It's crazy that we can create life with someone and yet not be able to say, I need you to do XYZ with me, not to me.

Answer 2

Well. I should imagine the conversation should go something like this: GIRLFRIEND: We need to talk... BOYFRIEND: Okay...? GIRLFRIEND: You're s*** in bed. Get better or I'm off. BOYFRIEND: ?