taking on more responsibility
Yes and no it all depends on the person
yes, if they want to change then they will have to work as hard as they can. Change is hard but still good if you are changing to the good side.
Abusers are bad. Period. It is common for someone who has been abused to feel lonely when the abuser becomes absent, but it is because of the stress of change. If you feel yourself running back to your abuser, get help. The situation will only escalate otherwise.
No he is not a child abuser.
Love Your Abuser was created on 2007-01-30.
It exist because the person being hurt stays in the relationship thinking the abuser will stop. Face reality this person has issues and they will not just up and change. I would advise anyone who is in an abusive relationship whether physical,emotional or verbal get out while you still can, because the abuser is not going to change magically.
AnswerSome abusers, regardless of age, do change (especially with the benefit of professional help in therapy, anger management classes, and medication).
Give him time. He will.
It is never wrong to abandon an abuser - especially if you find that you can forgive him no longer. It is not wrong to leave an abuser, his statements that he will change, even if he feels he is sincere, most likely are not. chances are any changes he would make would be temporary and it will not ever be like the early days again. you have changed and matured that is why you cannot forgive him. you know you deserve better! Don't ever regret leaving your abuser. How many times before did he say he would "change?" How often have you heard those words. Has he come through yet? It will never be like the early days, because those were days when he put the charm on to lure you in.
You two should seek counseling. Good luck and God Bless:)
Love Your Abuser Remixed was created on 2008-09-23.