What motivates people to use others?

Answer 1

It's been my experience that people use others simply because they can. In other words, they've done it all their life and it's worked for them. My family are users and takers. They do not remember all the good I've done and all the time, effort and money I've spent on them. Once I stopped, the campaign of hatred began. Users are only interested in you when they can get something from you. When they can't, they grind you into the ground and move on to their next victim. I think the biggest mistake people make when giving to the users and takers is thinking that somehow, their kindness and generosity will make the users and takers a better person. Wrong! Nice people who get sucked in by the users/takers do so with good intentions and end up broken and beaten down in the end. The best thing you can do is not to get involved. I have learned this the hard way.