Why do certain people feel the need to save people?

Answer 1

so they don't die, i assume your one of the people that doesnt save people therefore you want people to die. you cruel person.

I am confused...was this answer to me??? I guess I wrote my question wrong...my 34 year old sister died six months ago suddenly last Saturday (didn't wake up) left behind 4 kids, husband, and I am trying to save everyone!!!! I can't make the lost better for my parents, for the kids (ages 2 -12) for my brother-in-law...etc. I am drowning in exhaustion and can't get ahead and was asked by my counselor of 2x's today of why am I trying to save everyone????

I think you have me confused...I am dealing with a horrible loss...and can't fix or make anybody's life better....I AM NOT TRYING TO KILL ANYONE.

When we "try to save someone" in the sense you are speaking of, it is usually because we hate to see people we care about and love suffer. Sometimes we feel we must be strong to care for our loved ones so that they don't become too overwhelmed by the emotions associated with the death of a family member. You need to remember, you are also within this family group, and you also need to allow yourself to grieve. The grieving period can be considerable and in some circumstances it may take years for a person to get back to "normal" life, especially a parent or spouse.

Just remember that the grieving process your family are going through is natural, and while it is great that you want to be there for them, don't forget about yourself. Make sure you are not withdrawing from your normal life activities too much, and maybe suggest your family members do the same. Keep a healthy diet, as grief can cause people to stop eating, and try to get a good amount of sleep. If this is proving difficult, consult a doctor or perhaps a mental health clinic.