Why are men such big liars and cheaters?

Answer 1

Many animals of either gender utilize deception to mislead other animals. This activity appears to give various species a genetic advantage. After all, beyond eating and sleeping, the greatest drive of any species that procreates is to procreate. And if a species can advance itself by deception, then it will use such a tool.

However, as your question intones, the liar is only one half of the issue. The other half is how we deal with those who lie to us. Often we can feel betrayed and enter a depressed, almost submissive, state of mind upon having been deceived by someone. Being lied to can counter one's self esteem, resulting often in anger towards not only the liar but a group one can identify with the liar (i.e. being lied to by a man makes the rest of men conceptual targets of anger, as being lied to by a woman can make the rest of women appear as targets for one's ire).

The best way to deal with being lied to is continue to experience those situations and learn from them. The human brain, regardless of all of our emotion and self-imposed drama, is always recording and learning from the experience on a conceptual level. However, the emotional state you experience helps to feed into the information your brain is processing about the overall event, and can help to "muddy the waters" of your neurological (brain) landscape.

Learn to turn the situation around from the perceived negative into a perceived positive, and realize you are still you regardless of how others treat you. The less emotional noise you offer your brain, the more analysis of the situation your brain can have access to. It's wired up to protect you, and the more you can help it by keeping your self esteem high, the better off you are.

Just remember to analyze events you experience and learn from them, and don't take it personally. It ain't your fault someone lied to you.