What is the best way to discipline a 20-month-old girl?

Answer 1

To the last poster there was no where in my post I said to grab their chin. I said "hold them under their chin" and any child psychologist will tell you that this is to be used to get eye contact with your child as a method to hold their attention while you are speaking. I know many parents disagree regarding a spanking, but it worked with our parents, and my brother and we didn't have any problems from it. We were expected to listen and our parents didn't have time to explain why we should behave or "time out." We were disciplined by being sent to our rooms, perhaps not allowed to go out and play with our friends or not able to go to the Saturday Matinee. If all else failed we got spanked! It's proof right out in society that many children are left without much control or taught to respect their elders or how to behave. What some parents think is cute by their child having a fit in a restaurant is not so cute to other patrons and also, a child taking over adult conversations is also not considered cute or that the child is particularly bright. Many children are out of control and society is tired of picking up the pieces. Many women that have gone back to work have openly admitted it was easier to go to work than stay home and look after their kids. I am not talking about all women and some do stay home because they want to raise their children the best they can. As we all know raising children is the hardest job a parent(s) can have. You are obviously one of the lucky parents that can control your children without much effort, but, there are many parents out there that are beside themselves with frustration as to how to control their children. My husband came from a family of 5 (4 boys and a girl) and they got spanked and each one turned out to be solid, successful and normal functioning human beings out in the world. Marcy Discipline these days is so hard for parents. We look at that cute and cuddly little wonder in the nursery right after they are born and our brain cells take a hike! We have all these hopes and dreams for this perfect little being and before we know it they are in the "terrible 2 stages" then they go to school and there is a little more trouble, and finally THE TEEN YEARS! Yikes! Suddenly that little sweet face turns into the doll from hell! LOL When you speak to your child hold them under the chin and try to make them look at you. If you hopefully get their attention then scold them and tell them they are bad and then put them in their room and to bed (check on them every 10 minutes). It may not work the first or second time, but persistence is everything and keep doing it. Children this age understand a lot more than we give them credit for. I am going to get kicked in the backside for this one, but when all else fails I believe in a little smack on the behind. I'm not talking about twisting the child's limbs, throwing them across the room or using things like belts, wooden spoons, but, some children are extremely stubborn and YOU ARE THE BOSS! It's most important that your husband or boyfriend take part in this as well. If your child is punished then both of you should stand on this decision so the child can't run off to the other parent and get sympathy. This is the worse things that can happen. British Columbia, Canada has brought the spanking law back in and thank God! I wish you well. Good luck Marcy * I for one disagree with smacking kids or grabbing their chins there kids. A simple timeout seems to work great for me, a father of 5