What are the signs that tell you a guy is gay?

Answer 1

• You can't tell. There are guys who wave their arms around, and talk with a lisp, who are extremely straight. And there are butch tough guys who drive trucks, who are gay. The stereotypes are no use here.

• The big question is "why should it matter?" Sometimes men can be effeminate in manner (swishing, moving their hands or arms in exaggerated movements) while some guys can look and act just like a straight guy. I have met many people in my lifetime and never really thought of their sexuality and some of those people I have had as friends for many years and it wasn't for a long while before a few admitted they were gay. I loved them for who there were, how they treated me, and nothing has changed. Don't sweat it and just enjoy the guy. If you are interested in him then ask him out and if he's gay he probably will say no or even admit he's gay. Either way you'll at least know where you stand.

• The only way to tell is if he tells you, and tells the truth. Many people say you can tell by mannerisms or interests but I could point out many straight florists and many gay wrestlers. All the stereotypical male interests (hunting, sports, drinking games) are found among gay men too. All the stereotypical gay interests (fashion, gossip) are found among straight men too. There is no way to know for sure unless a man tells you. In my case, I almost never tell people, because once I do they put me in a category and start dishing about Cher or Liza (I could not care less), ask my fashion advice (I know nothing about it ) and want me to pick out a color for their living room (how do I know?). Learn to treat people as individuals and you'll rarely cause offense.

• Sometimes it's extremely difficult to know unless the person tells you. I have seen men from all walks of life that are gay and some are oil riggers and longshoremen (big guys and the least ones you would guess would be gay.) There are men with effeminate trends (women's gestures) but they're straight as an arrow. Some women may look and act like a man but are straight and some women you would consider a #10 are lesbians. Unless they tell you outwardly they are gay then it's often hard to know. It's a difficult question to ask the person so unless you are steady dating them or married to a person you suspect is gay it doesn't really matter.

• See how he reacts if others call him gay. He will deny it very strongly. See if he looks at men at restaurants and see if he looks at attractive men. Also, see if his girlfriend (if he has one) complains about him. Does he have sex with girls? These are all signs.

• Best thing for young women to do is leave guys alone on that one I'm a middle age gay guy and absolutely hated girls in adolescence asking me that because I wasnn't interested in them. I'm not effeminate and people assume I'm straight. You can really mess with a young guys life by nosing around for your own interest. If he's interested in you he'll make the move.

Answer 2

Any gay person must eventually come to terms with his or her own sexuality. "Knowing" it and "admitting it to yourself" are two different things, and it takes some people longer to reconcile the two. Most people who are gay are aware of their being different from an early age, and generally by their 20s most gay people "come out." Some people wait longer for various reasons (fear of rejection, violence, religious issues, etc.).

Answer 3

You may be able to tell if someone's gay from the way they walk, talk (perhaps with a lisp and/or higher voice pitch), their fashion sense (which is excellent BTW), or just by asking them.

A recent study has shown that many gay men have longer, slimmer fingers than straight men, that they more often have anti-clockwise hair whorls and are left handed.

This doesn't apply to everyone though, so you can't completely rely on it.

Trust your gaydar.

Answer 4

Seriously, there is no way of telling with most people unless they want you to know. They are all different sizes, shapes and act in different ways. Even though it really isn't anyone's business, you can always ask. They don't have to tell you. Unless you are looking for a sexual partner, it really shouldn't matter. What a person does in bed and who they do it with has little or nothing to do with how they are going to act with you.

Some guys/girls flaunt it and some don't so it would be very hard at times to tell if a person is gay. Some guys that are gay come from all walks of life and can be muscular, rough and tough looking, while some gay men can be very effeminate. Women that are gay can be considered beautiful, feminine, but still can be gay and some women will act like a guy (butch). Does it really matter!

If you are in a relationship and are wondering then the person MAY be bisexual, then if this is a concern to you ask, but be warned, if the person isn't gay or bisexual this remark could end your relationship.

Ask them. Apart from that, there is no sure way to find out somebody's sexuality. Some gay people do 'act gay,' but so do some straight people have effeminate behavior and many gay people don't 'act gay,' just as most straight people don't.

You can't be sure and only the individual knows if he is gay. If a person decides to tell you they are gay, then you will know for sure. Otherwise, it's none of your business.

Gays are right next to you on the bus and others in the doctors office or even the doctor. Don't be afraid. They are just like you and me, they just love someone just like them which come to think of it we do that, too.

Answer 5

If he's not effeminate or flamboyant, red flags would be unusually well groomed or dressed regularly, not into male things especially those where he might get dirty like working on cars, never doing any manual labor or going too far the other way, dressing too macho, too much jewelry, too much chest hair showing-these are only signs though and there are exceptions of course.

Answer 6

The same way you tell if a girl likes you.

Answer 7

you can't. But if he's lying about it, it means you should back off, because it's a deeply personal issue.