Signs that your husband having affair with someone?

Answer 1

From my experience, he was dressing differently. Stopped calling me on his lunches, and got defensive when I asked him about his female friends at work.

Sometimes too, the guilt makes him treat you differently. He'll lash out at you for no reason although he will bring one up that makes no sense at all. It could be something you have done in the way past just to throw the focus off of him and on to you.

He will stop using his phone for actually "calling" people and start texting more, then delete the texts so you won't know who he text if you happen to check his phone and due to privacy rules, there is no way you can get hold of those records unless he signs a paper requesting the text messages from the cell phone co. which he will be indignant about and turn the tables on you again and accuse you of having trust issues. It funny coming from someone who "doesn't know how to text " and he texts more than a girl does. Sometimes 300+ texts a month compared to only 20 calls a month.

Anyone would be suspicious. Men don't text that much unless they have something to hide.

He will also take off to go "shopping" for one or two items [which should take about and hour] and come home 5-6 hours later and then tell you it's none of your business where he goes or when he comes home. Then you find receipts that are from places 2-3 hour away from where you live that coincide with bank records.

Oh, and please don't question that either, it will be "none of your business.

Your will be accused of going through his things when you are not. This of course is his own guilt and him not knowing what to do with it.

He will have other email accounts and deny it.

In counseling mine was asked to let me know when he spoke to, texted to, was in the company of, or ran into a female friend and stopped and had coffee etc. I factually know he has but he has yet to tell me..

I never ever had or ever will have a problem with that, with the lets say "business" he is in.

I would never ever care if he had another email account. But don't lie to me about it and say you do not.

If I run into an old boyfriend or if I'm going to be late coming home, my first consideration is to call and relay that.

But when, I go to the store and drive pass where he says he is; and his car is not there, or I walk in somewhere to eat with a friend of mine and he is sitting with another woman in deep conversation in a place he denied being;......that was when I started having suspicions.

Then when my family starts seeing him out and about in places I have begged him to take me, with another woman, well now I'm pissed.

Trust issues. They were minimal at one time. This was a man that due to my past relationships made a promise to God and me he would never do to me what others have. I made the mistake of letting my guard down and trusting him.

I was told by him to not ask him any questions. How convenient for him then he doesn't have to give any answers.

I do not believe this is physical, I do believe it is an emotional relationship though that he is caught up in which can be just as dangerous and worse.

It's harder to get out of.

In the end, he will treat you differently because he is treating the other the way he use to treat you. In the end also, it is his shame, his denial, his guilt, his sin and he must answer to a higher authority than myself. If he doesn't have an excuse for that too. I know where he has been.