Is there a cure for being a crossdresser especially if you see it as a curse and wish you werent one?

Answer 1

Dear Sisters,

Cure for crossdresser

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After years of years suffered as a closet crossdresser,

I was ended in quite serious depression. The notion of

alien, abnormal, preculiar, gay etc bothering me quite

a lot due to the conservative society around me.

my social life hampered by lack of confidence and anxiety.

I had been doom for many many years, and no one could I

share about my sufferings and little secrets.

Due to that suffering I had, causes me in inclination to

seek peace and the truth.

Thru many religion texts, bible etc, I have studied.

for long and meditation technique had learn. And finaly

I able to some what find a 'cure' for this problem.

I can't really define this solution as a 'cure' as this

is not really a kind of 'sickness' but I can honestly says,

this is one kind of nuisense and to some it is sufferings,

if it was not, we would not need for a support group.

And you might not see this words of mine.

even the most happiest crossdresser would not escape the

harsh reality of society cold glance of unapproval.

So after lots of study and making my self as guinea pig.

I found that crossdress behaviour is a loop or percisely

a set of interlocking emotional activities and action.

For my case, it can be describe like this :-

Interlocking emotional Group 1 (Arousation)

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Cause

1) Social do not approve my behavior,

2) No one to turn to, feel lonely,

3) No one accept me nor love me,

4) Depression

Result (Negation)

5) Desperately seeking to have happiness

6) Desperately Seeking to have love

7) Desperately Seeking to gain approval

Interlocking emotional Group 2 (Compensation)

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Cause

1) As I dress, I feel happiness,

2) I feel the love in the dressing, softness

3) Emotional of kind and acceptance

4) Feminity induce care and innocent feelings.

Result (Negation)

5) Feeling guilthy, Feeling abnormal,

6) Want to be away from this abnormally,

7) Fear of discovery and social eyes.

As you can see, the first emotional Group is the

Arousation of the second emotional Group and the

second one is the cause for the first one.

The two of those emotional group turn into aloop.

a Deadly Endless Loop.

I was drowning in the loop for a long long time,

until I had enough observation power due to

meditation to observe this problem.

And the solution for me is this. I reprogrammed

the loop with this confirmation :-

"I accept myself as who am I, even I dress or

undress, male or female is nothing to do

with the way people accept me or denied me.

I love myself and forever I will, no matter

what I'll become(sissy slut or Conan the babarian)."

For this,

The first interlocking group emotional curse is broken.

as the first broken, the second too gone.

because I no longer seek for any approval from any society or people.

I didn't need to under the mercy of other people for their love and approval.

Because I am not begging for love,

I didn't feel the desperate need to seeking for love,

Because I didn't desperate to seek for love and love feelings,

the desire to crossdress to have those feeling / passions of love is reduce,

because the desire and feelings is reduce,

I no longer stuck under the mercy of the lovely dress.

Because I do not dress by mercy of the desire,

I didn't feel my self as abnormally or having disapproval by society.

Dear sisters/brothers, this is a cure I found,

the emotional peace I have is better then the swing

of a crossdress would had between the lovely dress

and the cold hard reality. This is the way to break

the loop, but like any 'problems' knowing it

already resolve half of it. The other half is to

accept it as it is and drop the loop all together.

Do find out your own emotional loop. When you did

that, you will no longer be a slave of this problem.

yet you still can dress beautifully as you like

without any emotional burden anymore.

P.S. with eternal love,

The Enlightened Crossdresser