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Are you joking, did you think because you had told his wife what he was doing, that will be the end of it. Mistress hardly go and see the wife, of the man she was having the affair, her intent is if the wife learn about her husband, it will automatically going to kick him out of their house. And this is mistress dream. When a woman becomes the mistress it will be for her benefit as well as the married man, why? the only way a mistress can let go her married lover is when she have a soul.
When he decided to cheat over and over again to gain his mistress he was already done with his wife for whatever reason. At the time the wife discovered the affair and realized the husband was more concerned with the mistress is the moment the wife should be done with him... Big mistake on his part!
Having an affair can be emotionally devastating for one's spouse. So, it is not surprising that a person's spouse would ignore them after they learned of an affair. To make a marriage work following infidelity, both parties need to be willing to work it out, and they should likely attend couple's therapy.
For those people that was hurt and betrayed by our spouse, we will never get over the pain of their affair but it will ease up slowly and surely. Time will be our weapon and it will help us to understand, all we need is never loose our faith.
No.. Sounds like he wants the best of both worlds. He wants you to take him back but he is getting deeper feelings for his mistress. It's a situation you don't want to put yourself through, you will just end up getting hurt over and over again.
He probably does want to be with her..... but the wife (if she found out) uses her control over him to force him into not being with her. Sometimes it depends on how deep the affair with the mistress was.
When an ex mistress of the husband in question refuses to leave him alone it is one of two things: he is not making it clear to her that the affair is over and is still in touch with her or, she has an obsession with him and will not take no for an answer. The ball is in your husband's court and he should be looking after this problem. If he is serious about ending the relationship with his mistress and she stalking or constantly phone him or bothering him at work all he has to do is see a lawyer and get a restraining order put against her. If he refuses to do this then be wary that he does not want to completely end the relationship with her.
The Media did not justify the Scandal of Gary Hart, a married Presidential candidate who was having an affair with his mistress. It was the press who outed Mr. Hart and his mistress. It was all over the news and many called for him to step down as the democratic candidate and he did.
How long? it depend to the husband, whether his affair is over or not. If this married man go back to his ex mistress, it means that his affair is not really over and only lie to his wife. But for a man who goes back to his mistress is a soulless man, all he can think about is himself. If this happen why not talk to him and really tell him what you wanted (divorce or separation). Having this issue will not help no one and it needs to be settle. If he want to be with her, let him so you can move on with your life. Don't let him put a hold in your life and happiness, life is to short.
Yes, some men get jealous over their mistress, but this does not always mean the married man loves the mistress, but some men feel she is their property and in only a very few cases is it truly love. Remember, this married man has a wife and he would be jealous if his wife had another man on the string. Mistresses often lose when a wife is involved and if the cheating man really cared about the affair she would not be his mistress; he would get a divorce and either live with her or marry her.
ANSWER:It's going to be a little tricky, especially if you fell in love with the person you had the affair with. But if this is your final decision, you can do it. All you have to do is stop, don't call the person nor write to him or her. If you are married, talk to your spouse and open up..
I don't know how common it is but it is certainly possible. Sometimes they may believe that if they have an affair they may be able to get over the fact of what has been done to them and in most cases it does not work.
No, divorce is just a way out sometimes. It depends on how much remorse the cheating spouse has, and if both are willing to work towards making it work. If the spouse who didn't cheat hangs it over the others head, then it definitely wont work. If the spouse forgives the other, and looks to a brighter future then nothing is impossible!