How should my girlfriend decide if she should do cheerleading or spend time with me but I dont want her to do cheer because it gets in the way of everything but she don't understand?

Answer 1

Don't you think you are being a little selfish here ? She'll still get to see you as well as cheer, she needs to develop herself and her talents don't hold her back. It seems you are the one that doesn't understand. I agree with the previous poster, you are being selfish. The "all about me" attitude does not work in a relationship. Why should she give up Cheerleading? She can do cheers and still see you. You don't have the right to monopolize someone's time. Perhaps you have control issues that should be addressed before they get out of hand.