How do you tell a guy friend that you love him without actually saying the words I love you?

Answer 1

== == * To tell your guy friend you love them is an extremely difficult process, and usually needs to depend on the right time and place for the answer. So many people feel awkward or uncomfortable after they say this, but I have found if you go along with the right moment and play up to his mood (for instance, he's having an awful day be the consoling friend and ask him how you can help) it can really be a good thing. However, if your friendship is not up to the stress of another level, it may collapse under so much pressure. Be careful and be prepared for any repercussions. If your friendship is really deep, though, he will probably feel the same way.

* Tell him what effects he has on you, how you wish things would be with him (like "I'd like to wake up beside you every day", "I wish you'd want kids with me" )... [Comment: Take it slow and easy. Saying you would like to wake up beside them or having kids would make most guys terrified and run for the hills. Too much information all at one time. Be honest and tell the person you would like to try to take the relationship to the next level. If they ask what you mean by that say, 'Lets go out on a real date and see where it leads. I care about you and we get along so well.' Nature will take care of the rest. ]

A: I agree. Didn't mean to imply she should hit him with sth. like "I want to have kids with you" out of the blue, though this, too, might be the right approach, depending on her and his character. Important question is WHY does she want to avoid saying "I love you"? Is it too trite? A meaningless phrase to him/her? Would he misunderstand it? Does it simply go against her nature to talk about feelings? Is she just too timid to say it right out? In all these cases my advice is good though the two examples given were ..erm.. rather drastic, but they do clearly state that she loves him without her saying "I love you". Here are some less drastic and more obscure key sentences:

"I like having you around."

"Your absence impairs my ability to concentrate." "I feel safe in your arms."

"I'd like us to spend more time together. I'm not saying that I want to have sex with you (though I wouldn't mind), but I do want to spend more time with you."

* I am in the exact same dilemma. The odds of the person I love being you are probably about 1/5 million (I have no idea what the odds are) though so I'll go ahead and tell you what I am going to try and do. My story is a little more complicated, but I won't get into that right now. We're both single though. I have no idea if she feels the same way about me or not. We tell each other I love you all the time, but we always have. Just like you would tell any of your good friends. Now, however, I am absolutely in love with her. We don't live near each other any more, but the next time I see her...I'm going to tell her and pray that if she doesn't feel the same that at least our relationship doesn't fade. I know the feeling you are experiencing right now. == == * Show him in your actions. Not kissing or anything but how you treat him. Show him that you would do anything for him. Tell him how much he means to you. I love all my friends and I tell each and everyone of them that, but I tell them love and I save love for my boyfriend. Maybe that would be a good hint too? My best idea is showing him how I feel about him. That's how I do it... don't get to pushy and all over him... but show him by your actions. == == * What is so wrong about telling someone you love them? If you feel it say it. Don't throw yourself at the guy, but you will know when the time is right to tell him. If you can't tell someone you love them without fear in your heart then you never really did love them or the person isn't right for you. We never know when we will last see a lover, friend or family member so it's great to say every so often "You know, I really love you!" == == * If you really love that person, you shouldn't be embarrassed to show it. If you are embarrassed, maybe it's not true love. If you do tell that person: "I love you", make sure you say it looking deep into his eyes. If you say it on a messenger or on the phone or something, it's not that valuable. Don't be afraid to hide your feelings! == == * Sometimes it's difficult to say the L word....people are embarrassed and afraid of what the other might say. One thing I found that helped me was I eased into it. You can start off by saying you adore him, most people are afraid because they aren't sure what reaction they're going to get. This way tests the waters. And later when you're comfortable with it you can say you love him. You can always incorporate it as a little joke or make the way you say it seem amusing...it doesn't have to be a enormously serious event or at the perfect moment as this takes the pressure off both of you == == * Don't bother. Just say it! Honesty is a wonderful thing in a relationship. == == * I know it can be very hard sometimes to say 'I love you.' Sometimes you think that what if he takes it the wrong way or what if he never loved you; in short form you think that he may say NO and that's OK because you told him then if he doesn't love you he's the one losing something not you and its not your fault that you loved him. The heart doesn't know who the person is or if he will say yes or no it just falls in love, but don't worry, stay strong and keep believing in love because the second meaning of love is sacrifice. If you love them sometimes you have to let them go. That's life!!! == == * I think if you love the guy that you should tell that person that is all I have to say. == == * I know that if you love someone you just tell them but what if he's your really good friend and you are scared that after you tell him you might lose him because maybe he never loved you and now he will fell uncomfortable talking to you because you gave the relationship a new name and he doesn't like it and you're just going to lose both your friendship and your love and I've been heartbroken so many times so can't afford to sacrifice anything else!!! == == * Try also to see if he likes you back before telling him the L word before that just let insinuate (hint) around him to see how he feels about you and just appreciate him for the time being. == == * What type of love are you talking about? Friends love or more than friends. You can say you like him if it's more, but either way go for it and just say it. He will be flattered. == == * When you are alone with the person and having one of your intimate conversations simply tell you're friend you are very "fond" of them. This can mean either love or just a great friendship. He/she may ask what you mean by "fond" and that's when you could tell them you think you love them. If we all fear rejection (and we will experience it off and on in our lives) and don't take some risks then we could miss out on a lot. If I loved someone I would tell them so and take my chances. = = * Say, you're very nice, nicer then most people I've ever met. Hint it, that might work.......but yes, as said somewhere above, honesty is the best. * I loved my guy best friend. but I just told him I liked him. It's better to just tell them you like them first.