How do you know when to give up chasing a girl?

Answer 1

Off-hand, I would say that "chasing" is a strongly charged word. It's not likely that you meant anything wrong using the word, but think about what the word implies. It could mean anything from calling her a little more often than you call other friends, to following her around and doing other things that would cause her to feel stalked and frightened. So first, drop the idea of 'chasing'. Concentrate on enjoying all of your friends, boys and girls. Friendships are mutual, they are not forced. It is the same whether you are talking about friendships with boys or with girls. You cannot force friendship (another way of thinking about the word 'chase') and you cannot force a girl to like you or to be your girlfriend. If you learn to concentrate on enjoying your friends, and learning how to do that well, the boy-girl thing will work itself out in a healthy and mutually respectful way. When people let the 'hormone thing' add to the bad habit of 'chasing', then they learn the worst ways to find and develop relationships. Sure, the hormones will kick in. Develop habits that will help you act respectfully, and you will be ok.