How do you help a friend with a cheating dad?

Answer 1

Keep your composure and don't put any thoughts of actually harming the father.

Or even talk of harming the father. That should be the last thing on both your minds though you want to.

Especially if your friend is young and is close to her father or was before this happened.

As a mother, it is not easy to find out that your man is cheating let alone the kids to find out. I don't care how old the kids are, they could be adults, it still hurts to know that the dad that they knew growing up is now cheating on their mom and they trusted him completely, now that trust is broken and gone.

All you can do is console and tell your friend It hurts and there is no getting over it, but your mom has to find out on her own.

You cannot do anything about it.

Maybe he or she can discuss with dad about it, if he is level headed, he may also tell your friend, is it really any of your business? And be a little mad of it that they are asking at all or bringing it up with dad.

It can work both ways on that.

But communication with a child and father is the best.

And the daughter or son needs to communicate NICELY, don't walk in in a huff and start accusing and going off into a rant and such.. maybe start out with you know dad we have always discussed things (if they have) and we have always stated we would trust each other and be open all the time with each other (again if they are)

But don't come in stating how you know this and that and it is not right to mom etc..

Just have your friend be calm.. and I know it is not easy to do this and may be asking a lot.. but you won't get any answers, your friend won't if you just barge into dad's den and/or office or whatever and start a blame tactic.

But it hurts and it hurts tremendously and to feel betrayed as well by dad.

If mom don't know it may be best she find out on her own, not through the kids. As then there will be the denial and the disbelief that this is happening and may not cause a good scenario for the kids either.

She may not believe the children at all and then of course dad will deny it as well. So it is not a good thing to do..

But for the most part console and ask how things are going for your friend and support your friend all you can. Get them out of the house as much as you can. Just don't do anything that would harm the dad and/or you friend either.

Answer 2

It's important to listen and provide emotional support to your friend. Encourage them to seek professional help like therapy or counseling to process their emotions. Offer to accompany them to seek help or to provide resources for support groups for children of parents who cheat.

Answer 3

* You must have proof that your father is cheating and if you have then you need to sit down with your father and tell him you know all about it. There isn't much more you can do about it than that and your father will have to decide what is the right thing to do.