How do you catch a very cautious cheater?

Answer 1

Cheaters are all very sneaky and cautious, but, they do make mistakes. Here are some ways you can find out: If possible, check on their Visa card to see if there are any motel/hotel bills that they can't explain. If they travel on business, then phone the motel/hotel and asked who checked in on that date. If possible, check the person's cell phone (especially their phone book on the cell) and check on any messages you may be able to retrieve. If you live together and you are getting phone calls and when you answer the person hangs up. The best way to find out if this person is cheating is to have a friend (in their car and one that your mate won't recognize) and follow them. That's how I caught my first husband. Be careful of calling your mate a cheater and be absolutely sure and here is why: One of my girlfriends came to me several years ago all teary-eyed and upset. She said she thought her husband was cheating. When he said he was working late she had called twice and he wasn't there. Then one of her other friends saw him having a drink with another woman. My girlfriend found a charge on his Visa for a reservation for two the following Saturday in a very ritzy hotel. I told her to stay calm and although things looked a little suspicious to calmly just ask him what the charge on the Visa was all about. Well, the best of it got to her and she fiercely attacked him verbally about the hotel reservation for two, him being with a woman and getting phone calls where someone hung up. She called him every name under the sun. His face was crushed which she assumed meant he had been caught cheating. It turned out, that indeed he was seeing other women, but what she didn't know was she'd forgotten it was her 30th birthday and the hotel reservation was for her, and he was setting up a huge birthday party for her with the help of some of his staff members (one, his secretary.) He had also bought her a $10,000 diamond ring because when they got married he couldn't afford to buy her a diamond engagement ring (thus, not working overtime when he said he would be.) Did she feel foolish? You bet! Of course this is a rare case, but you just never know. Follow him! That's the only way you are going to get the truth. Your mate isn't anymore cautious than most cheaters (including women.) Good luck Marcy