Have you experienced Gay people who bully straight people?

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Have you experienced Gay people who bully straight people?

I have found a lot of information on gays who have been bullied, whereas very little attention or discussion focuses on Gay people who are bullies themselves. As a straight woman, I have often heard more gay men gossip and say hurtful things about others (especially in the workplace) than I have heard from straight men. I have not worked with many lesbians, so I can't comment on comparing them to straight women in regard to this topic. But, since I've been bullied by gay men and have seen various gay men bully or gossip about co-workers, I felt the topic was worthy of discussion and consideration.

I understand that insecurities are the foundation for any bully, and that they come in all shapes and sizes and ages. Yes, anyone can become a bully, but I have seen first hand that gay males are not just victims of bullying--and I've seen some act in very hurtful ways and backstab others for the mere enjoyment of it. Is it their way of payback? Perhaps. But, I find it confusing that there are no articles or studies on gays who bully others.

Bullying is found everywhere, I realize that. And ways to counter this cultural epidemic seems to include awareness building, honest discussions, and consideration for others who are seeking help or information. What do you think about gay bullies? How would you address this issue? Have you ever had to deal with a gay person who bullied you? How did you handle it?