Gay bandana meaning

Answer 1

It depends on where you are. In San Francisco in the 1980's, a black bandanna in the right hip pocket indicated masochism; in the left pocket it indicated sadism. Grey in the right pocket signaled a desire to be tied; in the left pocket a desire to tie someone up. White indicated a beginner or someone who was into beginners. (It also sometimes meant "vanilla" or plain sex without accessories, dress-up, etc.) Red indicated heavy anal sex play. The left/right pattern was reversed in some other parts of the country.

Ultimately dozens of colors became involved, but since a lot of gay bars had mostly red lighting it was pretty hard to see what the bandanna color actually was. So you still had to talk to a prospective partner.