Does it matter if the boy force kisses you?

Answer 1

If you are asking does it matter if a boy forces kisses on you, kisses that you did not want or did not want at that time; yes it matters. It matters a lot. Anytime a boy forces himself on a girl - whether it is to kiss her, touch her in a manner she has asked him not to or forced sexual penetration - it is a serious issue.

Any sex act, whether kissing, touching, or sexual penetration that is not wanted, is an act of assault. It is not meant to be caring or tender, it is meant to show strength, force, power or intimidation. Sex in any form is never to be forced on someone, it is by definition an act of sharing our body with another person - by choice, not by intimidation, strength or coercion.

It means he is not respecting you or your boundaries, not respecting your decision not to have sex with him and not understanding that "NO! MEANS NO!" it shows a lack of self control and possibly a belief that his needs or desires are more important than yours .

I would suggest you not be alone with this boy, ever. I would also suggest you get this message to him. Either with the help of someone from school; a counselor, school nurse or teacher. Or the help of a parent or other adult - tell him in no uncertain terms that what he did is wrong, it is assault and it will not be tolerated. Let him know if he is turned over to the police he will be arrested for assaulting you, if found guilty he will be labeled a sex offender for the rest of his life. It is a serious matter and boys need to understand NO! Always means no!

Answer 2

Yes, it does matter. Any form of physical intimacy should always be consensual. If the boy is forcing a kiss on you without your consent, it is not okay and you have the right to speak up and set your boundaries. Remember that you should never feel pressured or obligated to engage in any physical interaction that you are not comfortable with.