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Answer 1

Ok so this is going to be a long answer because I need advice on a complicated situation that's going on right now. No one is going to read this, but if you do, thank you so much. Nobody in my life cares about my problems enough to try to help me, so this is the first thing that I could think of. First of all, im a 14 year old girl, just so you know. I have a boyfriend, and this is going to be about him. I know that middle school relationships are dumb and don't matter, but right now it matters to me, and it's been making me sad that things aren't going right, so i want to fix that and try to make myself happy. Ok, so I've been dating this guy for 4 months now. For privacy reasons I'm going to call him Cal. I know that 4 months isn't a long time for to be dating, but in middle school that's practically forever. I met him through theatre. We were in a musical together. We liked each other, and our relationship was going well. What you need to know about Cal is that he has a rep at my school for being a bit of a player. He's dated lots of girls at my school, and is known for cheating. He almost got expelled last year for sending inappropriate pictures. But he seemed different than that to me. And me being a dumb middle school girl, I fell for him pretty quick. He was cute, talented, funny, and had a great singing voice. And he told me he felt different about me than other girls. Then the next musical came along. There is this girl at my school and for privacy reasons, I’m going to call her Liz. Liz is not a very good person. She has been in a mental hospital a few times. She has tried to kill herself maybe than once. She has depression. But she is also really pretty, skinny, and talented. She is literally gorgeous. Liz was part of my friend group, just because she was in theatre. She also dated one of my friends. One day I find out that she likes Cal, my boyfriend. I’m really mad and for the rest of the day I’m scared that he is going to leave me for Liz. He promises me that he won’t, but I really am not sure, given his bad history with girls. She is also more attractive than me. He told me that he wanted me to be friends with her. At this point I was sure Liz hated me. But I got on her good side, because I didn’t want Cal to be upset. A few days later, at rehearsals, I’m with Cal and a few other friends. I was sad because of the Liz thing but he tells me not to be sad anymore. I tell him that I’m not going to be sad anymore, because in High School Musical, Gabriella was never worried about Troy leaving her for Sharpay, even though Sharpay liked Troy. 30 minutes later, he is laying on the floor in between her legs and she was playing with her hair. I also found out that he was wearing her hat the whole time. I started crying and was pissed. He sees me sad and gives her her hat back. It was good after that for a while. A few weeks later, she is in the mental hospital. She tried to kill herself. She got sad every time she saw us together. Liz promised Cal that she wasn’t cutting herself, and he believed her. But really, she was cutting her shoulders. Of course, it was assumed that I didn’t care about her. Nobody thought that I cared where she was or what happened to her. But I actually cared a lot and felt horrible, and blamed myself for what happened to her. Eventually she came back to school. The only thing was, that Cal started talking to her more, and paying her more attention. They would sit in these small rooms that are connected to the choir room called practice rooms. In the dark. They said they were talking, but I really wouldn’t have the slightest clue if they were making out in there or not. One day, very recently, it set me off. I was really sad all day. Then at rehearsals, I was talking to my friend that happens to be a guy. We were laying on the floor. I was sad, so I had my blanked, and I put it around my guy friend. Jokingly, one of my other close friends said, “you have a boyfriend, you can’t cuddle with another guy”. Well, I wasn’t mad at her, but it was the thing that set me off. I yelled “OK, SO I CAN’T TALK TO ANOTHER GUY, BUT CAL CAN BE IN A DARK PRACTICE ROOM WITH LIZ AND NO ONE IS BOTHERED BY IT?” I cried for a while, but then rehearsals started, and I needed to be onstage with Cal. I ignored him but later we made up, cried and hugged. Later last night I texted him. I just really wanted attention, but long story short he was acting weird and eventually broke up with me 30 minutes later. Over text. He said it was because he had to focus on school. I cried a lot last night. I cried in all my morning classes. After lunch, we got back together though. He said he was sorry and that he wasn’t thinking straight last night. So we got back together. But he said later today, that every time he’s with Liz, I’m upset, and whenever he’s with me, Liz is upset. I really don’t know what to do. So my question is, what do I do? What do I say? I really need some help here.

Answer 2

yes please i would like some help

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