Why have you started constantly thinking about someone after 25 years?

Answer 1

No one can say why you have started to constantly think about someone after 25 years. However, you can figure it out. Every time you think of this person, jot down a few words about what you are thinking. Your list can be as long as it needs to be. After a week of doing this, go through the list and circle similar things. Go through the list again and put a rectangle around other similar items. Continue, using different colored pens or ways to mark "alike items". After marking them all, prioritize them-- 1 most important to 5 for least important. The top 3 "most important" are your reasons. However--it may not be about that person, but what the person represents to you.

Here is an example list about an ex-boyfriend:

• my first kiss
• eating Pizza before going to the movies
• he had a motorcycle
• he always did what he pleased
• self-motivated
• handsome
• humorous
• the smell of leather
• he never wore a helmet when he rode his motorcycle
• trip to New York City
• he had a slight beard- scratchy
• he lied a lot
• I hated his friends
• he loved my sun dress
• he took off to explore frequently
• we loved camping together
• he had a nice smile

So in my fictitious list, let's say my #1 most important items had to do with exploring, taking off, doing what he pleased, reckless (no helmet), etc. Maybe in my life, I'm longing for more freedom, to be a little 'reckless' in my own life. You may need to really think about what your list "tells" you about yourself.