Why do i feel like i cannot get married to my fiance?

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I have been dating my fiance for 2½ years. We got engaged last July and since that time i haven't been the same. I love him, he's a great person, he is always by my side but deep down inside I'm soo confused about marriage and about marrying him.My parents were divorced 8 years ago but it was a good thing my sister and by ex brother-inlaw are going through a divorce as we speak but that really bothered me, i thought they loved each other and this day would never come.

I told my fiance how i felt about my relationship towards him and he said we should take a break. I told him i might not have the 100% surness of how i really feel about him and he said he is sure and he wants to be with me. Sometimes i even thought our relationship was a bit mechanical., i just did things to do things. I never felt like i would die without him, but is this the way woman should feel over there spouse? There was never that passion like i missed him it's very strange i can't even explain it and i don't even know if it's normal. I'm very social and outgoing and he is more to himself .He said maybe I won't miss him during this break. One big problem I'm having right now is that i haven't felt passion for him, i haven't slept with him in months. I'm so confused and upset that this is happening to US. I love him and i wish things weren't the way they are. We are good people and I'm just not accepting the fact that this is happening, i wish it were all a dream. I hope someone out there is reading this and i hope to get some feedback.

Hello,

I have read what you said and in my opinion I feel that you and your fiance should really sit down and have another serious talk in regards to your relationship and where it stands. Maybe you and him need more time to think things through by making the best decision for the both of you now and in the future. Or maybe you two are just not ready to marry but if the two of you really love each other then I think there is still a chance that your relationship will work out. Also you don't have to sleep with your fiance to prove your passion for him b/c love comes from within and not out and never rush into anything that you are not ready for in life b/c in the end you may regret it!!!