you should NOT be nice to them :)
love guru has spoken
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Smiles: Thanks love guru. Anyway, you should also try not to provoke them because abusers are prone to anger (or so I believe--what other reason ignite their abusive ways?)--that would give you a mighty thrashing. Don't attempt murder, then you might turn out to be some serial, psychotic killer. Don't seek help when they notice, otherwise they might drag you and give you a thrashing you'll never forget. And don't make them take you somewhere where you can't scream for help.
That's like asking "Should a child abuser be allowed to keep custody of their child?"
you shouldn't do anything
Have the abuser arrested.
The first - crucial - steps are to acknowledge that he is abuser and seek help. Abusers are usually in denial: If the abuser is also a narcissist (suffers from the Narcissistic Personality Disorder - NPD), this may be of some assistance:
It should mean "abuser," specifically one who is feminine.
No he is not a child abuser.
Well if its UNintended, then no it doesn't make you a abuser. The abuser continues his abusive ways even after it's been brought up to him or her. Just be sure to talk to your spouse about this problem. Let them know that you are sorry for what you did and you did not mean to do it.
yup. but you should get over him.
You should not wish revenge against an abuser, this will only make your abuser furious and cause them to harm you more than they already have. To stop an abuser you need to talk to the authorities and if you are a teenager or younger person that is being abuse you need to talk to a trusted adult for help.
You need to call the police and give them all the information you can, perhaps notify an adult family member of the abuser if appropriate, and then accept that there is nothing else you can do. The abuser needs professional help- he is not your responsibility. His attempts may not be real and he may be just trying to manipulate you.
if the abuser is genuinely sorry for what he has done, admitted his wrong to both the victim and to god and has taken genuine steps to repent.however, if the abuser was once a victim, in y opinion, it makes the situation worse, as the abuser should be fully aware of the dammge he/she has done.I was violently raped, but i have no desire to abuse another human being.
yes, because her safety is at risk