What can I expect from a acoa spouse?

Answer 1

Being Married to an ACOA, is hard, very hard.

If they have not done work on their AOCA issues, you really are in for a rough ride.

You will need to deal with their constant push & pull of your affection.

They nearly always have emotional intimacy issues.

They will spend large amounts of time in personal isolation from you.

You will crave for them to initiate affection, which they are incapable of doing.

You will often think you are unloved.

They always feel you will abandon them, so your relationship will be prone to their sabotage tactics.

If you remain in a long term relationship with an unhealed ACOA, you will almost certainly need therapy yourself.