What are the parents perceived roles in inculcating values to the child?

Answer 1

Raising children and inculcating values in them is a hard thing to do it seems in the times we are living in. Unfortunately, we can't stop children from facing challenges and trials, even though parents may want to. But parents can prepare their children by helping inculcate values that cause them to be unselfish, caring, and responsible adults. This is no easy take to accomplish, but it is quite possible to raise responsible adults, and we have a good example in The Bible of Jesus and how he dealt with his disciples. There is an article in the May 1st, 2010 Watchtower that talks about 3 ways Jesus set an example for parents

1. By Setting the Pattern-"Close to the end of his life, Jesus said to his disciples: "I set the pattern for you, that, just as I did to you, you should do also." (John 13:15) Likewise, parents need to explain and show by example exactly what it means to be responsible",
2. By having reasonable expectations- "Jesus recognized that it would take time before his disciples would be ready to assume the roles and responsibilities he was expecting of them. He once said to them: "I have many things yet to say to you, but you are not able to bear them at present." (John 16:12) Jesus did not immediately ask his disciples to do anything independent of him. Rather, he spent much time teaching them many things. Only when he thought they were ready did Jesus send his disciples out on their own. Similarly, it is unreasonable for parents to ask children to assume adult responsibilities before they are ready. Even so, as children grow, parents should determine what assignments and tasks are appropriate for them. For example, parents need to teach their children to be responsible for their own personal cleanliness, to clean their room, to be punctual, and to manage money wisely. When a child begins school, parents should expect the child to view his or her schoolwork as an important responsibility that the child must care for.Parents need to do more than just assign responsibilities to their child. They must also support the child's efforts to succeed."
3. By providing specific instruction- "Jesus, like every good teacher, knew that the best way to learn is by doing. For example, when Jesus felt that the time was right, he sent his disciples out "by twos in advance of him into every city and place to which he himself was going to come." (Luke 10:1) However, he did not simply leave them to their own devices. Before sending them out, he gave them very specific instructions. (Luke 10:2-12) When the disciples returned and reported on their success, Jesus commended and encouraged them. (Luke 10:17-24) He expressed both his confidence in their abilities and his approval. When your children face challenging responsibilities, how do you react? Do you seek to shield your children from the things they fear, to protect them from disappointment and failure? Your first instinct may be to "rescue" your child or to take the burden upon yourself. But consider: Every time you rush in and "save" your children in some manner, what kind of message are you sending? Are you indicating that you have confidence in them and believe in their abilities? Or are you telling them that you still think of them as helpless infants who must rely upon you for everything?".

Yes, If we follow these 3 steps that Jesus took to train his disciples, we can inculcate good values in our children and help them become responsible adults in the future.