What are the cons of having a mistress?

Answer 1

a few things to consider:

1. Being exposed to STD's HIV, herpes, chlamydia, syphilis genital warts, gonnorhea, crab lice, etc.. keep in mind if she if she is willing to be a "mistress" you may not be the only one... so you may be exposed to more than you think. If she is willing to keep your relationship a secret it may mean she has many other secrets you don't know about (other guys, girls , diseases, etc...)
2. She could expose private info about you to friends, co workers or family members. Secret photos emails letter, gifts.
3. She could blackmail you.
4. She could have emotional/mental issues which make her a serious threat to you, your children, wife, and family members.
5. She could disrupt your employment and you could lose your job.
6. Most women don't take kindly to "intruders/competitors"...you could lose your wife, your home, custody of your children if your wife chooses to divorce you.
7. If she is mentally unstable she could even hurt your wife and family physically.
8. If your state has adultery laws you could find yourself at a disadvantage in divorce court and the court might favor your wife in custody, property, child support, alimony , etc...
9. You could lose your car, home, boat, motorcycle, dog, health insurance, children's college fund, inheritances, credit rating, etc..
10. If your state has a alienation of affection law your wife could sue your mistress for damages.
11. Statistically people who have lots of secrets, have high stress and live shorter lives ( heart attacks, stokes)
12. You and/or the mistress could be accused of wrongdoing, murder, vandalism, domestic violence even if you never did anything (hell hath no fury like a wife scorned? or maybe a mistress scorned?)
13. there is no future with the mistress...I mean think about it...If she is willing to cheat and hide and sneak around with you, you don't think she might cheat, hide and sneak around on you if you married her? You will always doubt her. And of course if you get a divorce and marry the mistress she is no longer your mistress...now she is your wife! (then everything changes)
14. And of course the flip side... can she ever trust you? You cheated on your wife to be with her?
15. You lose the respect of your children.
16. You hurt your children
17. And you disrespected them (you disrespected, and cheated on their mom whom they love, don't you think they will feel disrespected too?).
18. You lose the trust of your children...if you did this to mom, what about them? would you cheat them, lie to them, hide things from them I mean you said you loved mom too right and you lied to her?
19. You probably will lose the respect of your family ( parents, in laws, siblings etc)
20. You lose respect of your mistress (after all you never really had it) and any future in laws there. if you did marry her
21. You lose self respect
22. You discredit yourself...your being deceptive, so your spouse and children wont accept your credibility as a spouse or parent.
23. You could get her pregnant which brings new dillema's...birth, abortion, support, explaining this to your wife, kids, family, and of course the child itself if it is born.
24. Maybe feeling shame ...ashamed of your self, the mistress, or the possible child...
25. If she is married or has a boyfriend ( You might not even know) you might find yourself in danger of her hubby wanting to beat you, kill you, expose you, destroy your life, reputation, career or even sue you ( alienation of affection)
26. A mistress consumes money, time and energy you could put towards improving yourself, your marriage, your business, your career, your children's future.
27. Your children may accept that this is a good example for them and their marriage
28. Your grandchildren lives may be affected if your children follow your example.
29. Eventually you'll probably get bored with her. ( the relationship isn't progressing, it has no direction)
30. Depending on your moral beliefs you might even find your self compromised in the after life if you believe in one.

Answer 2

pourquoi en avoir une?