If you split up with your fiance after dating 6 years should you go back and try to make it work?

Answer 1

HELLO THERE...WELL I WAS IN THE SAME BOAT..WE FINALLY GOT MARRIED IN SEPT.. BUT WE BROKE UP ALOT INT THE PAST.. WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 6 1/2 YEARS.. IF YOU LOVE THAT PERSON THEN YOU SHOULD MAKE IT WORK, YOU HAVE BEEN DOING IT THIS LONG! DO YOU WANT TO SPEND YOUR LIFE WITH THIS PERSON? THAT SHOULD BE YOUR ANSWER TO YOUR OWN QUESTION. BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP IS HARD AND TAKES WORK, PEOPLE CHANGE ALL THE TIME... SO YOU HAVE TO KEEP UP WITH THE FLOW OF THINGS. BUT IF THE STRESS IS TOO MUCH, DON'T BOTHER, JUST MOVE ON... BUT HONESTLY, 6 YEARS IS ALOT TO GIVE UP ON. :)answermy boyfriend and i have been dating for 2 years and have been engaged for 1 year. sometimes i want to leave him just because i am so young and i havent got to do the things i want to do. but i love him dearly. and i wouldn't be with anyone else. i want to marry him and be with him forever. if you love your ex then go back to her! but if you know in your heart that you don't want to be with her then don't. you did it for a reason. after six years you definitely were together a long time and yall knew each other very well. follw your heart. if you love that person, go for it! if not, you know you have to let them go.

If you felt it in your heart to leave him then there must be something pretty substantial behind the feelings. A couple of years ago, I was in the same situation. I started dating someone in high school and was with him for five years. Finally in the end I realized that when we started dating we had so many things in common but as we grew up, we developed new interests, wanted different things out of life and just grew apart. I learned a lot from the relationship and every now and then think what it would have been like to still be with him, but in the end I'm confident I made the right decision and am very happy with the person I'm with now. It was probably the hardest thing to do, giving up my fiancé and my best friend but knowing how I felt, that my love for him wasn't the same, I just couldn't lead him on or make myself feel the same feelings that I once had.

Lets face it, you were together 6 years, if it had meant to be you wouldn't be asking the question. I would move on. It seems as though you have grown apart and want different things in life otherwise you wouldn't have split. If you end up marrying him you'll just end up in divorce shortly after.

I believe that after two years of dating, the people involved have had plenty of time to get to really know each other and would know for sure whether or not they want to get married. Any idling after that is a waste of time. You know in your heart why you broke up and why it's not going to work after six looooooong years. sorry.

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First of all, after 6 years, I wonder why you would call them your 'fiance', unless your living with them and don't want to refer to them as your live in lover. After about 2, you don't call them a fiance. after 2 or 3 years, come on! It just sounds good, doesn't it? Quit using the term just because it sounds cool. RESPONSE: I wonder if you know what the term fiance means?? It means that they are engaged. I think your answer isn't really helping this person and is quite childish.

ANSWERPersonally, I was with my ex-hubby for 6 yrs, then had doubts, but thought I'd invested too much time to waste it. How foolish of me! This is called a 'sunk cost' - time you've already spent. Anyway, got married after 7 yrs, had 4 kids (every 2 years) although I couldn't describe it as a happy marriage. Then after 18 yrs he left when the last one was 6 months. You never can tell the future, but if after 6 years you're having doubts, can you imagine how you'll feel entering old age with this person. Be brave, put your thoughts and feelings first and move on. Fate plays funny hands and you'll probably meet the man of your dreams - I have now!