How do you make a high school relationship last into college?

Answer 1

== == There is a common misconception that relationships (at any level) should be easy and if it is hard then the couple should break it off to find a relationship that is more convenient for them. Not only is this incredibly false but a dangerous idea to spread. Love = Work. Love also = the best feeling in the world. Love is a real quirky beast. What would happen if work were to be removed from the Love equation, then the relationship would stagnate and each partner would (over time) loose a feeling of purpose.

High School relationships are just about as quirky (if not more). Being underage usually accompanies destructive parental interference. Such interference usually occurs when parents are not properly educated about relationships (or do not want to be properly educated). This causes much static in many peoples relationships. However, if this is gotten through, then it's smooth sailing (at least until college).

How do you make a high school relationship last into college? Well, the opposite of the belief of "Love should not equal much work." If there is true love guiding the relationship then true love should also guide you to the difficult fact that it will be...well...difficult. You must understand that there may be a time crunch put on your relationship that may have not been there before. (A person typically spends 3 hrs outside of class; studying, doing lab work, reading, etc.) The key to minimizing the impact of this is proper time management. If that is not applicable, then keep reading.

If there is a distance separation (one in which there is large amounts of time, whatever you personally consider large, where you two are apart from each other) then it will be tough. It very may well be the most difficult experience you have had, yet, in life. If it is true love, then stick with it. You will be thanking yourself for securing everlasting love (something that is dying fast in America) and showing your partner that your in for the long haul.

Also, you must consider the experiences that occur in college; drinking, parties, clubs, org's, college jobs, new freinds/crowds, etc. If this makes you feel uncomfortable then discuss your fears with your partner. You BOTH are in the relationship you shouldn't have to deal with everything. Compromise.

Along with that compromise idea, college choice should vary directly with your relationship. Many people will either gasp at that past sentence or roll their eyes or exclaim "What an idiot!". It is a sad fact that not many people are ready to make big sacrifices for their relationship (hence the high divorce rate in America). Just because you do not attend Ivy League does not mean you will not be successful in life. In fact, more and more studies are showing prior pre-employed experience is outranking what degree and where one got said degree. Consider this, you want to be in the realtionship far longer than the 2 or 4 years you'll spend in college. Why give up a lifetime for 2 or 4 or even 6 years. You can get a quality education at a lesser prestigious school as a prestigious one. Plan so that you both can see each other regularly. This will make the transition a LOT more smooth. Also, you may be able to get an apartment together and split all the costs (that's using those division smarts; cost of living/2 = savings. Living together = savings + Someone you love to come home to after a long, hard, terrible day at work/school. It helps all the way around). Again, do not be bullied into submission. "Trash" "Flunkies" "Rejects" are not the words to describe those who attend less than Ivy league schools. You are you own person with your own goals and dreams.

Also, do not fall victim to relationship judgments. Most people in America are idiots, now imagine that half are dumber than that (George Carlin). Obsessive, creepy, unhealthy, and other such words may fly in your direction. IGNORE THEM. It's you and your partners relationship, NOT THEIRS. If they do not have the integrity to make sacrifices for their relationship, then that just shows their lack of knowledge of real loving relationships.

!IMPORTANT! Ignore statistics that show that high school relationships rarely last past high school. It's the existence and access of those statistics that keep high school relationships lasting. The second you start to buy-in to those stats is the same second you place yourself in the line for relationship failure. Again, IT'S NOT THEIR RELATIONSHIP to tell you what will/wont happen between you and your partner. AGAIN, IGNORE STATISTICS. 67% of statistics are made up on the spot (just like this one) ;-)

I would say the most important skill to learn and master is patience. Get yourself some hobbies if the time you both have to spend is crunched down to a seemingly impossible amount. Do not give up, if in your heart you feel that you would be worse off without your loved one. Those college years MAY be the most difficult, however, it may not be.

Most of all, just love. It sustained you and empowered you throughout high school. Don't let that fire die just because you got a piece of paper saying you went through 12 years of school. You are still you and your partner is still your partner. Keep working at it, you will have to work forever to keep your relationship alive with passion; to keep the love stirred up and fresh. But, remember, time flies (and work seems like nothing) when your having fun.

I will not wish luck to you, because I do not feel luck is involved. Instead I wish you the best of Love and happiness in your future together!

Answer 2

I think you just communicate with each other a lot. TXT eachother if you both can text. And don't keep it a secret that you are going out. If you keep it a secret then you guys will naturally not talk, hug or do anything. Try to meet eachother out of school, maybe at the park or something. Just don't go to far in your relationship you might regret it... :) have a wonderful day. And i hope this relationship for you lasts a life time.