How do you know if you are a cuckold?

Answer 1

It depends on what you mean.

By strict definition a cuckold is a man (traditionally) whose wife secretly has sex with another. So you should refer to the voluminous literature on "how do you know your partner is cheating on you."

If, however, you mean "how do you know if you have a cuckold fetish," the answer is actually simpler. Do you get turned on by the thought of you partner choosing sex with someone else over sex with you? The important elements to consider here:

- Do you get a masochistic thrill from it, or is it just that you are a voyeur and like to watch people copulating? Ask yourself if the thrill would be the same if one of the people was not a partner of yours, but two people you didn't know. If they didn't restrict you to watching, or make fun of you, would it still be so hot?

- Is it hotter to imagine it being your spouse or the love of your life than just a sex buddy you don't have those "I love you so much" feelings for? Cuckolds will get a bigger charge out of it being someone they are bound to and/or value than someone they (and/or society) expect such behavior from.

All kinds of people have non-mongamous relationships - swingers, open, poly, etc. What makes cuckolding distinct is the dimension of masochism you feel in being shoved aside or passed over.