How do you bring a spark back into your relationship?

Answer 1

First, one must assess why the relationship is dying. Is there a good reason? By good reason, I mean, any occurrence that is a deal-breaker. What constitutes a deal-breaker is left to the criteria of the person involved.

That said, if one has concluded that no such occurrence has ever taken place, the first step is assessing what is missing in the relationship. The person must determine what his/her needs and wants are, and how are they not being achieved.

Now with a clear understanding of what is missing, communication is paramount. This involves trust and intimacy. The person needs to express feelings, needs and wants, and certify that the other party has understood. Also, show a little empathy, by inquiring if the other person is content with the relationship as it is, and if not, in what way can you meet needs and wants.

A compromise is needed, and people should make habits arrangements that are reasonable and doable and are not seen as a burden.

Then discipline is key. People should seek to develop routines that are aimed at fulfilling mutual needs and wants.

It's also advisable to celebrate often, and adopt a more positive and joyful attitude. Focus on any improvements and throw a party. Fully embrace and incentivize any advancement on the other part.

Find special things to do with that special someone. Find your song, your movie, your place. Build a culture around your relationship. Give it a personality of its own. This will increase your level of intimacy and nothing but good things will come out of that.

Answer 2

I've learned you can't. Not unless both of you are willing to try. If only one of you don't feel the spark that means it's not meant to be.

If both of you are willing to try, it's all up to you. But most times when the spark is gone, it's gone.