How can you heal if your spouse has an affair?

Answer 1

There is a saying that Time heals all wounds and wounds all heels. If you have to leave your spouse, the time needed may be shorter since you essentially remove the offending person from your life. At first it is harder, but you can start moving forward. If your spouse owns up to the mistake and is willing to work through all the steps to recovery (including listening to you for several months or longer as you sort it out), it will take longer. But, you may end up with a deeper marriage to that person. Some therapy from a third party will definitely help you regroup.