Does a strong father daughter relationship affect marriage?

Answer 1

In order to make my answer clear, I am going to assume you are a woman and this is your father we're talking about. So, my answers is: yes, it could. How? If you let your father interefere in matters strictly related to the couple (eg., sex, financial situation, kids, etc.) without talking to your husband first. This is a big mistake. On the other hand, if you ask for your father's assistance even when your husband said he didn't want your dad to know and/or interfere... you're making a marriage sin, with a big S. Men are usually very proud and the importance of their ego shouldn't be ignored or underestimated - you stab a man's ego, you're declaring him war no matter what his feelings are. Before you got married, your father had the most important guidance role in your life (this is an assumption - disregard it if I'm wrong, pls). The relationship was strong because both you and him felt good about the way it rolled. Now you're probably struggling between the need to give your husband what's "officially" his (in other words, to give him that very same guidance role in the marriage) and not letting your father feel secondary, feel left behind. I'm afraid there is no magical solution to this rather universal problem. My advice would be to talk to your husband and tell him exactly how you feel, ask him how does he think you can face the matter. Let him suggest (= guide). You don't need to talk to your father about this, all you have to do is give him other roles in your life without him really noticing the difference. He doesn't want to see you unhappy by fighting with your husband.... He probably just wants to have some of your time, dad & daughter time, just the two of you. One full afternoon every two weeks and a couple of phonecalls in between should be enough, for both of you. Take care.