Acquaintance Who is to make the first step?

Answer 1

It depends on both parties' personalities, AND CIRCUMSTANCE.

For example, if you know the other person is extremely shy, then your best bet is to make the first move. There are situations where things are very likely to NEVER happen, if YOU don't take the first step.

There are also circumstances where the one of the persons is expected to make the first move as to not break certain societal conventions, or certain limits of respect.

For example, when I fell in love with my best friend, while I was still in another relationship, I often daydreamed of my best friend confessing his love to me.

But then my mother advised me to make my first move:

If the guy wanted something of a future with me, he would never confess to me because it would be a disrespect to my relationship, she said.

Sure enough, months later, my best friend confirmed our suspicions: "I wanted and want you to be my wife, and disrespecting your then relationship would have been disrespectful to you, and would have said negative things about me and of my perception of you.

I confessed first, because I knew he wouldn't even if he had the same feelings for me. But I have to admit, there was a third factor; I suspected he also felt the same way about me form comments, looks, and moments we had.

In sum, it depends on a lot of things.

Just remember, it is better to try and fail and know how the story ended, or SUCCEED! rather than asking your self "WHAT IF" the rest of your life.