Wine etiquette has changed with our changing society so these are no longer hard and fast rules except for very formal occasions.
It very much depends on the formality of the occasion.
At high formal meals you, as a guest, have little or no say in the choice of the wine, you will be served from your right by the wine waiter/ess and your glass will be kept charged by that same waiter/ess.
If a less formal occasion, the wine will be offered to the host/hostess to check the label, the cork drawn and laid upon the table, there is no need to pick up the cork and check it, a simple visual check is sufficient. There should be no residue and the cork should be moist to indicate it has been stored correctly. With some vintage wines and especially port it is necessary to decant it first. Steps should be taken to ensure this is done beforehand.
The wine is tasted by the host/ess and accepted or rejected. The wine should then be served around the table, ladies first, and the host/ess last.
Again, depending on the formality of the occasion, if there is no dedicated wine waiter/ess it is the host/ess that ensures all glasses are kept charged.
Depending on the establishment the geography of the room may change these rules somewhat, it may not be possible to get around all the seats for instance.
It should be noted that even if you are a non-drinker you should accept the glass of wine, there is no compulsion to drink it. For formal toasts then either use water or pretend to sip the wine.
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