Why is losing your virginity a big deal?

Answer 1

It's not. Or at least it shouldn't be. Really it's a social thing, a throwback to older times when it was only appropriate for a woman to have one mate. That's where the religious stigma comes from. Now for other reasons it's considered a big deal because it's your First Time... something you haven't experienced before... a genie that hasn't been let out of the bottle. Some people fear it, they want to save it up, giving that experience to someone who really cares about them... not flitted away or spent on some five minute encounter. It's a romantic idea, to give yourself to someone, to expose yourself to something so new in the arms of someone who truly and deeply cares for you. And from another standpoint, you can never go back to Not having done it before. After doing it your first time, either as a guy or girl, it is another experience that has been "done". There is also alot of pressure to make the First Time the most memorable, no matter what you believe, because it's your first experience with sex and (supposedly) you'll always remember it. Often however, for many reasons beyond a person's control the First Time isn't the best sex or lovemaking they end up having, and is sometimes pretty uncomfortable or unfulfilling... and for a minority of people it can have a lasting effect on how they feel about it in the future. because you can never take it back