his fear of being like his father
Okonkwo's youngest wife, Wifey, angered him by visiting her family during the Week of Peace, a sacred time when violence and disputes were forbidden. This act was seen as a violation of the cultural norms that emphasized respect for the earth goddess, and Okonkwo's anger stemmed from his fear of being perceived as weak or failing to uphold traditional values. His reaction highlights his struggles with masculinity and the expectations placed upon him as a leader in his community.
Okonkwo is ashamed of his father Unoka. He feels his father is weak, effeminate, and made fun of by other members of the tribe. Okonkwo feels a man should be strong like a warrior, but his father is shy of blood. Okonkwo feels a man should be hard working and provide for his family, but Unoka is lazy, and a very poor farmer. Okonkwo ends up inheriting nothing from his father.
The way Okonkwo reacts to each of the things that Unoka and Ikemefuna do and say highlight his character. For example, his fear of weakness is highly illuminated when he slays Ikemefuna in a daze. His lack of wisdom due to disrespect of his father is shown when he is annoyed by his father trying to console him after the drought then torrential rains during Okonkwo's first harvest. His desire for strong children is shown through his acceptance of Ikemefuna as his son.
He thinks this will prevent the child from returning to be born again.
The book does not say this explicitly until Nwoye joins the Christians, when Okonkwo calls him an abomination. However, Okonkwo often wishes that Nwoye was stronger, saying that at his age, he should already have impregnated a wife and taken a farm. Okonkwo also wishes that Nwoye were as strong a wrestler as Obierika's child, Okafo.
Okonkwo struck the last blow because he was afraid of appearing weak in front of his fellow clansmen. His fear likely arose from a deep-seated insecurity about being compared to his father, who was known for being weak and unsuccessful. By delivering the final blow, Okonkwo was trying to prove his masculinity and strength to avoid being associated with his father's legacy.
He was afraid that he would resemble his father, Unoka. His greatest passion was to hate everything his father loved. Okonkwo also strongly feared appearing weak. This led him to make poor decisions later in the book.
Okonkwo behaves cruelly because he is driven by a fear of appearing weak, inherited from his father's reputation. This fear compels him to overcompensate by being harsh and ruthless in order to prove his masculinity and strength. Deep down, Okonkwo may have moments of compassion and regret, but his desire to uphold his image of strength and avoid being seen as weak overrides these inner feelings.
He was afraid that he would resemble his father, Unoka. His greatest passion was to hate everything his father loved. Okonkwo also strongly feared appearing weak. This led him to make poor decisions later in the book.
Okonkwo is anxious about Nwoye because he sees him as weak and effeminate, unlike what he believes a son should be. Okonkwo wants Nwoye to embody the masculine values of strength, aggression, and success, which causes tension in their relationship.
Tortoise is mostly unlike Okonkwo. Tortoise has a sweet tongue, whereas Okonkwo knew "how to kill a man's spirit." Possible similarities: Tortoise is ungrateful towards the ones who help him. Okonkwo is ungrateful towards villagers he regards as weak or lazy, but they do not really help him as much. He is grateful towards those that help him, and shows his gratefulness and sincerity. Tortoise is wide-traveled. Okonkwo shows evidence of having been to all the villages of the Igbo. Both Tortoise and Okonkwo suffer a fall.
Okonkwo struck the last blow to Ikemefuna because he did not want to seem weak or cowardly, even though Okonkwo likes Ikemefuna, and thinks of him as his adopted son.
Okonkwo's character in the novel "Things Fall Apart" by Chinua Achebe is shaped by his desire to avoid the failures of his father and be seen as strong and successful in his community. His fear of being perceived as weak drives him to behave harshly and with a focus on traditional masculinity, ultimately leading to his downfall.
And so Okonkwo was ruled by one passion - to hate everything that his father Unoka had loved. One of those things was gentleness and another was idleness.
Okonkwo is part of the group which leads Ikemefuna out of the village to be killed. After Ikemefuna receives the first blow and runs towards Okonkwo for protection, Okonkwo strikes Ikemefuna down, not wanting to be seen as weak.
Okonkwo's inflexibility, rooted in his fear of being perceived as weak like his father, leads to his downfall. His refusal to adapt to changing circumstances or question his beliefs ultimately brings about his tragic fate. His inability to find a middle ground or evolve in response to challenges contributes to his ultimate tragedy.
The constant references to gender in the novel "Things Fall Apart" highlight Okonkwo's rigid adherence to traditional gender roles and his belief in male dominance. This reflects his fear of being perceived as weak or feminine in a society that values masculinity and strength. Okonkwo's adherence to gender norms ultimately contributes to his downfall as he struggles to adapt to changes in his community.