ABSOLUTELY!!! Take it from the sister of a woman who did it constantly. There's nothing more humiliating and convicting to a cheating woman than having this disgusting fantasy she's living become exposed. Right now she's comfortable because the situation is still somewhat in her control. Once the other spouse knows, they will get involved and begging to put a lot of pressure on their own cheating spouse. At this point, your wife looses control because she is no longer the major decision-making factor. Not to mention the fact that YOU deserve this. JUST WHO THE HELL DOES SHE THINK SHE IS to cheat on and expect you to keep quiet about it. Lastly, being a past victim of a cheating soon-to-be-spouse, I had to learn the hard way that you run the risk of it continuing to happen if things are kept quiet. I know you may be thinking "but she loves me too much to do that and now that its in the open, she wouldn't dare". If this is what you're thinking...all I can say is I FEEL FOR YOU!!! Because if this was true she wouldn't have done it in the first place!
This is a very hard question to answer and it depends on the maturity of the people you are dealing with.
Personally, I would want to know if my husband was cheating on me.
AnswerI think it's time you gave your wife some ultimatums and not put up with this one more day. I am sorry you are going through this.If you know the man's wife and you feel she is a down to earth lady, then perhaps it's best, but it could back-fire on you as well and she may possibly not believe you.
For now, I think you should get your own wife under control and if she isn't willing, I'd leave. What she is doing is sneaky, cruel, is hurting two people and quite possibly hurting any children that may be involved. This is called a "me" syndrome and that's one selfish action.
If you are unhappy in your marriage then you should have the guts to talk to your mate, make arrangements to leave each other, custody of any children and visitation rights and part company.
Good luck Happy New Year Marcy
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* Some people who tell the wife in this situation, but you should be more concerned about your wife's behavior. She broke the bond of trust in your marriage and it's your wife you should be confronting. Discuss with her what is going on and if she is not willing to see that cheating is selfish; self absorbed and hurtful then you should move on or you become an enabler in this situation. I am sure this man's wife has her suspicions and she has to deal with this on her own terms.