Why marriage counseling has 80 percent failure when saving couples marriage?

Answer 1

• Failure during and after marriage counseling is caused by one or both couples not wanting to save the marriage in the first place. Particularly men object to airing out their private lives to a counselor where women are more open and men can be fearful of being blamed for the problems in the marriage so if they do go to a few meetings with the counselor they generally do not continue to go because some men simply blame the wives. Most women are romantics; strong; steadfast and the glue that tends to hold the family together rather than men so many women will try to fix what is wrong with the marriage where men will either go into denial or simply don't want to try because they don't have the staying power. It also depends on how serious the problems are in the marriage. Example: If one spouse is constantly cheating and lying; they may have an alcohol or drug related problem then marriage counseling seldom works. Men also feel that their maleness is being challenged by having a counselor tell them what to do. Society has changed and it appears there are more people living together than getting married and some humans have been spoiled with material things in their lives or life is often easier for perhaps the male or female to throw away their spouse like a piece of garbage then take the energy to save the marriage.