Why do you feel as if you are in a bad movie and are the only one who can see the entire narcissistic sociopathic behavior pattern?

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Because you've made excuses for a while..... you've allowed yourself to be treated in ways you knew weren't right.... for too long. So.... that's why it looks like a bad movie. It's a pretty dramatic story line. I couldn't write fiction as strange as my life turned out to be. As for your apparent clear vision into you N's obvious disordered behavior? Well.... lets face it. You're looking. Other's aren't. They don't want to know and you're probably the one running around behaving a bit disordered and emotionally unbalanced, lol. Slow down. Take a step back. View the situation with some distance.... like you're very high up, looking down at yourself and your N. What do you see? What would be logical actions and where do you want to be? What advice would you give to someone in your situation. ME? My advice.... is to run. Go. FAST. NOW! Tremusan

AnswerAgain ... labeling a person a narcissist is simply arm-chair psychology and unless a professional has labeled this person then they may not be a narcissist at all, but could be depressed, abusive, or be a perfectionist, etc. The only thing that matters is the fact this person doesn't treat you well and whether this person is a narcissist or just a creep they hide their true selves well and others generally never see this side of them. It doesn't matter what other people see, you see it, so run! answerWell the last answer only exacerbates the victim's feelings of isolation.

THIS is Narcissism FAQ. There is a disclaimer to deal with the issue of professional diagnoses. People come here to cuss and discuss who they believe to be a Narcissist. People who have been victimized. They want to know how to deal with the Narcissist in their life. Some FAQ questions are vague and have nothing specific to do with Narcissism. But this is not one of them. I don't see anything in this question that asks "Am I dealing with a Narcissist." The poster is asking for help and advice dealing with these bad feelings which come from being ABUSED.

There is NOTHING like being victimized by an N. Other disorders and conditions pale in comparison. Trouble is diagnoses or not, you don't really realize you are dealing with an N until you have been victimized by one. And it can happen more than once. Learn to recognize the signs and be careful. Whether or not he is a true N is beside the point. Somebody who mistreats you and display the behavior of an N should be avoided. If you have mislabeled him, it's no crime. After all, he earned it because of his behavior.

There is another FAQ section for abusive relationships that doesn't limit discussion to Narcissism. I think one who realizes he or she is dealing with a Narcissist would naturally gravitate to this section.

One thing worse than being abused is to be discredited by those from whom you seek advice and assistance. Immediately, your opinions and interpretations are labeled "invalid." I wonder how many people have been victimized who did not "think" the other was an N but were mislead and "thought" they were perfectionist or neurotic, etc... THIS is how the N gets by in life hurting and abusing others -- because there is always someone around giving him too much credit for being humane, which he is not. THERAPISTS are notorious for that.

AnswerI cannot add to the previous post as she summed it up perfectly. People here need support; they do not need to be invalidated, especially their perceptions and feelings. It's a VERY positive sign when someone can recognize another to be a Narcissist! That means they can heal. They have something to work with that takes blame from the victims, and then the true healing can start! AnswerAnswer_omitted_from_this_space_and_moved_to_the_Discussion_Page. AnswerThe funny thing is I recall feeling as though I were in the BEST movie of my life for the first three months. I've never experienced anything like it. Then yes, it turned into a nightmare. I don't think there is anyone other than the N's intimates who ever really know and understand the depths of their issues. My N's sisters and mother thought he was "a great guy," even though they knew he had "personality and temperament" challenges. They constantly minimized his behavior (they never knew the full extent of it anyway). Seeing him through their eyes was one of the primary ways I fell in love with him -- they were very rosy glasses. He knew this would happen which is why he ONLY had me spend time with his family. We literally NEVER spent time with his friends (and their wives). This should have been a much bigger red flag than I thought in the beginning. Yet, he spent time with my friends. It was only once I began to be more honest about what was happening "behind closed doors" with one of his sisters, that she finally said, "What would you advise a friend to do in this situation?" That was the only way she could suggest getting out without betraying her brother. Still, I don't think she every really knew or understood the depths of the nightmare I was experiencing.

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Thank you very much whoever replied with "People here need support; they do not need to be invalidated, especially their perceptions and feelings." Let me tell you there is nothing worse than dealing with an N especially if you are competely blind to the fact he COULD be an N. or if some "expert" keeps telling you "nothing is wrong, he isn't an N, he hasn't been diagnosed!" It attitudes like this that cause a victim to feel they are in a bad movie and are the only ones. Please have some sympathy and support for those of us victimized by a narcissist.