Why do kids who get abused become abusers themselves?

Answer 1

When abused, a kid practices blocking out their pain. They use this learned technique to block out the pain they inflict on others as an abuser. A few other things are occurring during a child's abuse, like the desire to never be abused again, and the mental image of abusing the abuser.

Answer 2

Many people believe they are, but actually they aren't, it really depends on each individual. Often, when a child has been a victim of abuse, it teaches them what NOT to do to their children. But again, this depends on the individual.

Some people have a natural tendency to want to overcome their childhood abuse, and stop the abusive behavior, while others tend to repeat the abuse with their children.

I've seen abused children from the same family, some who grew up to be abusive parents themselves, while others chose a much better way of life for their children, and were wonderful parents.

Answer 3

Not all of them do, but two possible explanations are they see it as "normal" It was how they were raised so it must be right. Probably more common with men abusing women. Husband beats wife and the son sees it and copies the behavior.

Child is abused and can't do anything about it at the time. When he or she grows up they pass it on. They suffered so they want to do it to someone as payback. Doesn't have to make sense, most bad behavior doesn't make much sense.

Answer 4

Not all children who have a history of abuse become abusers, but unfortunately in a lot of cases it happens. When it does happen, it's a lot of the time, a never-ending cycle. Someone abuses someone who was abused by someone else who abused someone else who got abused by someone else. Which is why when abuse is recognized help is needed right away, to end the cycle of violence. But sadly, a lot of people don't receive help, who need it. Someone who was abused during their childhood may walk around thinking the world owes them something, trying to make the ones in their life feel the pain and hurt they had to once go through. Some people grew up with abuse all of their lives and they may think it's okay and right, they may not see the wrong in it, because it happened to them for so long and no consequences were brought upon the abuser in their life. In other cases, abusers were not abused themselves but were brought up in a household where abuse was used, like between their mother and father. If a child witnesses their father hit their mother to get what he wants out of her, and the mother does what the father wants then that would send the message out to the child that that's okay to do if you want something out of someone, the child may grow up to think if he abuses his partner he/she may respond the way the abuser wants. However, an abuser may also have had a decent childhood, everything they ever needed provided to them, love and care in their lives, and friends and family at hand at all times but some people get a drive or a thrill off of abusing someone, it makes them feel good, like an adrenaline rush. Abusers who were a victim of abuse or who witnessed abuse replay it in their head again and again and may act out the violence the way they see it, because they are emotionally affected. The abusers who were abused themselves need someone to talk to them and help them, they need a way to cope with the abuse in a positive and helpful way. If you know someone in need, help as much as you can, whatever kind of help is still help.

Answer 5

In many cases yes. You become what your were brought up in.. But there are a select few that vow they will never become the monsters they had to endure.