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If you mean 'Why cant I leave the narcissist's life', in that you cant forget them as you are no longer together etc there are many reasons:
1) You remember how good the initial part of your relationship was, and for reasons unknown to you, they now seem like a distant memory, save for the fact that very occasionally, you still get glimpses of that person being at their best (be it with you or others) but everything you do still doesn't work to get those 'glimpses' more frequent, so you 'must try harder' (which doesn't work, by the way!)
2) The feeling you got from them (initially) made YOU feel whole, happy, lucky to be so idealized by such a wonderful experience, that in your mind NOTHING will EVER compare.
3) you have so lost who you are, that any scrap on offer will do, as long as they aren't hating you (its not hate by the way, it is simply that they havent the energy to tolerate you, and they cant be bothered with working at it as others are easier, ie new supply)
What is the overriding almost glaring fact in all cases, is that people think that the Narcissist is truly that special person he was, but has moments of rages, cruelty, selfishness, contempt, has affairs, punishes, verbal & emotional abuse, bullies, reckless behavior etc due to outside stresses that make them behave so badly. Once those outside pressures that are causing it go away, they will be back to how they were, and you will be once again, adored, respected etc. WRONG. Both people (ie the good and the bad person inside the Narcissist) are ONE AND THE SAME. You either accept that. Or you don't. To make it very clear, the person they are is the bad one. The good bits are real to them, but they have to work at it. They get bored easily, so it is inevitable that at the VERY end, you will get who they are ALL the time. Its up to you now how you want it to end - at what point do you walk away; ie your last memories of them are ALL bad or frequently bad, sometimes bad or not bad at all. For the latter one, leave it at the first date!!!
4) finally, there is one other reason (I'm sure there are more!) that I can think of. They don't want you to. Because if they had fully finished with you, and cant get anything else from you, you wont see them for dust.
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What do you do when a pathological narcissist has been trying to destroy your life for the past 4 years?
You need to leave. This person will never change.
How do you make marriage work with a narcissist?
Leave, then empty the bank.
Why is it so hard to leave a female narcissist?
Because we are men we (sometimes) want what we cant have. It's just like on TV shows where you see the Narcissistic female cheerleader have all the boys drool over her. The boys are drawn 1: By her beuty 2: Her Confidence 3: and we know she's out of our league. The reason we don't leave a narcissist is because we know that we have feeling for her, but she's just living in the moment. Narcissist have no commintment and feed off of other peoples love for them.
Can a narcissist man leave one relationship in search for another woman and have a different perspective on life to change?
No- a narcissist is a narsiccist- no matter who they choose to victimize. Don't worry, it just takes them alittle while to turn up that heat in the kitchen, but it will get hot!!
What will Narcissist boyfriend do if you cheat on him because of neglect?
leave and/or abuse you and blame you.
What do you tell people when you leave a narcissist?
That it didn't work out. The rest is none of their business.
Is it easier to manipulate a narcissist by fighting back or feeding there ego?
neither - LEAVE! www.vainencounters.com
Is it worth staying with a narcissist?
No, get out if it is safe to leave!
Was suggested in one of your responses leave the narcissist out of your life - how can you do that when the person is your adult child?
You have a responisibilty as there parent to stay with them, research narcissism, dont take them seriously, and dont take the abuse personally.
Will a narcissist leave a woman if she is too strong?
Sometimes not at first because a narcissist likes drama and likes to be around special people in order to feel special vicariously. But if and when she becomes too much for him to deal with he will leave. A narcissist really needs submissive women. Women they can dominate and control and get "Narcissistic supply" from....at heart they are insecure cowards!
What if your narcissist ex is considering seminary again Should you expose him?
Tell him to go and leave you alone.
If a narcissist ignores you what should you do?
You should ignore them back and be thankful you are not in their circle of victims. Get on with your life and don't fret over not getting attention from a narcissist.
